I don't know what to do and I am having a hard time dealing with my best friends new lifestyle. She told me today that she has been hooking up with this girl and she is in love with this girl. I have grown up with the beliefs that God hates gays and that they are bad and that we should not associate with gays. I don't know what to do and I would appreciate advice from both heterosexuals and homosexuals.
2006-10-16 09:57:34 · 11 answers · asked by The All Knowing Me 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you were a true friend you would accept her for who she is.If you have even the tiniest doubts about weather you're her true friend or not..you're not.Accept her for how she is and be cool with it nobody needs judgement so just accept her okay?
Best of luck!
Brittany
2006-10-16 10:04:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a great learning experience for you.
You will now realize that god doesn't hate gays and that it's not forbidden to be friends with gays. You will learn something outside of what you were brought up to believe. If she is truly your best friend and you love her (as all best friends should) then you will stick by her no matter what.
It's her decision and now you see that the people you love dearly and have known all of your life can turn out to be homosexual.
I think this is a turning point for you... you can either learn to accept homosexuality (you don't have to spread the love for gays, but accept it) and remain best friends with someone you care about. Or, you can just be close minded and ignore her from now on.
But think about it.... we're all people and we all deserve a shot. The only person that can judge us is god. I'm a straight woman that supports gay rights. I also love God. And, although being a homosexual may be a sin I believe god accepts all of his followers. There is no sin that cannot be forgiven by the mercy of the lord. Followers and respecters of Jesus get recognition... despite sexual preference, ethnicity, etc.
2006-10-16 10:03:25 · answer #2 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she is your friend you should accept her for who she is, gay, straight, or bisexual. God also tells us to accept others for who they are, and love them despite their "flaws".
I know that it is hard to step away from your beliefs - so ask yourself;
Why does god hate gays?
Why should you turn your back on your best friend because of this?
Also ask yourself;
Is your friend a good person?
Do you love her and value her friendship?
Is she doing anybody any harm with her sexual orientation?
2006-10-16 10:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bi-sexual is a VERY mis-represented term. Think about it. Have you ever found another girl that you feel real close to? She has found someone like that. Just because she would rather have the soft touch of another woman, doesn't make her a bad person.
BTW...God doesn't HATE gays.
2006-10-16 10:03:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
in I am a hetero and i thin that this should not come between the two of you. Yes, you were raised to believe God hates gays, but you should accept your friend for who they are on the inside, not the outside*You liked her before you knew this so everything shold stay the same between you.
=)
2006-10-16 10:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by mere 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i am bi myself and i believe that it is okay to be friends with them as long as they dont try anything on u ...... i know that is ur belief but just hang in ther u will see that its not that bad
2006-10-16 10:05:20 · answer #6 · answered by allie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sabes que babe, you should not hate anyone regardless of sexual orientation or anything else. Just let her live her life the way she wants and just be their for her.
2006-10-16 10:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I HAVE A GAY NIECE AND A GAY NEPHEW AND I GOTTA SAY IT DOESNT MATTER THEIR SEXUAL PREFERENCE. THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE THEY STILL HAVE FEELINGS LIKE EVERYONE ELSE THEY LAUGH AND CRY, WHO THEY SLEEP WITH DOESNT DEFINE THEM AS A PERSON. THEIR RELATIONSHIPS ARE NO DIFFERENT THEN STRAIGHT ONES. AS LONG AS THEY ARE HAPPY WITH WHO THEY ARE THATS INPORTANT.
2006-10-16 10:04:41 · answer #8 · answered by Nelson V 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
bi means that they want the best of both worlds and are confused about it.
Best to let them be., and move on.
2006-10-16 09:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
dont have intimate relations with him it is dangerous find someone who will love you and want only you
2006-10-16 10:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋