The second part of my question: I was very explicit with my ex when I told him that meeting up with that woman would end our relationship...and that I did not approve at all. Of course its going to make me uncomfortable given the whole affair. Since learning of her return, I asked him several times if they have spoken/met up. For every time (over 6 months) he has answered NO and even become upset at me for asking. I have since found he has spoken on the phone and met up with her.
When my ex made the decision to talk and meet with this woman he carried on a 2 year long affair with (prior to meeting me), did he make a choice? Is it a choice when you know the consequences? He argues he made no choice over me. I argue he did.
What do you think?
I argued that he did. He has said that this wasn't a choice. Yet, when you know all the potential consequences of an action, aren't you making a "choice" when you chose the action?
2006-10-16 09:45:06 · 4 answers · asked by Sebring 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's pretty simple don't you think. If one chooses to walk on to oncomming traffic and get hit, then the choice was made. If you advised him to not contact her and told him what would happen if he did, then he made a choice. He knew what would happen if he did what he did. Most people in our society will most likely not take responsibility for their own actions. I'm proud of you for being strong and making your own decision to remove yourself from a bad situation. Don't let him make you take the blame for the concequences of his actions. If he were a real man then he would own up to his mistake, accept it, learn from it, grow from it and then move on. You need to do the same. Good job for being strong.
2006-10-16 09:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jerrid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all make choices in this world. Sounds like your ex has made his.
You don't need that in your life. Best to move on and find someone who will respect and value your sense of people and your sense of trust.
2006-10-16 09:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have made yourself into the villian unintentionally with your ultimatums and that is what choice he made
2006-10-16 09:47:57 · answer #3 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course you re rigth all the way kick him to the curve!
2006-10-16 09:47:52 · answer #4 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋