i have a very dear guy friend and i love him and hes been in a marriage for five years and his wife is very very cruel to him she hits him and him calls him very uncalled for names and makes him feels like trash. He has very low self asteem as is and feels he can do no better what should i do? ive encouraged him that he should stand up for himself and fight and that hes better that this and her and im proud of him now im not sure what to do. PLS HELP!!!!
2006-10-16 09:26:10 · 18 answers · asked by kittykat05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well when i came into the picture i encouraged him and raised his esteem enough to start putting his foot down with her which i dont think hes ever done before im proud of him for it i showed him also how a girl should treat him as well im not in danger in any way only he is im afraid for him i just dont really know what to do as of now
2006-10-16 09:50:24 · update #1
he has a very kind heart and soul and hes been treated badley for so long and i hurt for him they cant make it work he doesnt trust her anymore frowns i dont think he loves her like he needs to in a marrige because of how she has treated him and disrespected him for so long
2006-10-16 09:53:26 · update #2
like i said yall his self esteem is so low he doesnt think he can do any better then her just to have a chick and wanted is good to him till i came along no hes thinking differently-thank god hes starting to see im talking to him and what relationships should be like what marriages should be like that you both should do things for each other- and i gave him some examples about me and him -i think hes getting it im proud of him hes come far-hes standing up for himself and not getting kicked around by her as much or hurt by her as much
2006-10-16 10:00:55 · update #3
yes marriage is apack between two adults but if one adult is beating down the other emotionally telling him hes worth nothing making his herbitch in everyway how is that pack thats not a marriage thats an enslavement!!!
2006-10-16 10:04:15 · update #4
and not the bdsm slave type either
2006-10-16 10:04:50 · update #5
so ishould just let him deal with it then?
2006-10-16 10:58:45 · update #6
I was there and I know how he feels and you are in the right to try and help he needs you and never turn your back on him Keep supporting him thta is waht he needs right now more than anything else. You need to show him what love really is and that what she is doing to him is not love. It is called contolling your other half and it is not fair not matter who is doing it. Someone shown me love and I liked it and had the courage to leave the abuse that i endured every day and now I am so happy in a loving caring relationship with this wonderful man. So he needs someone to show him respect love caring compassion those are the needs that he is laking in the relationship and if you or someone else show him that he will learn to like it and not like the other and it will wake him up and he will leave and then he can be happy to. It is a lond road and wont happen over night but it can be done and you should be one to help him out. In any way you can mostly being a friend is the most important thing right now and dont give up. Also Oct is domestic Violence Awareness Month so tie on a purple ribbon and show the support to him and the rest. I am a survior and he can be too. Good Luck and I will pray for you
2006-10-16 09:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer some thing's incorrect with it in any respect. each and every man or woman is in order that obdurate and prejudice they can't see previous their personal beliefs. Its ridiculous, yet i do not imagine that's going to ever end. possibly they were pleased with it till now marriage because they werent hectic about it going everywhere. Then even as they were given married they realized it develop into authentic, and it would want to were a actuality examine for them, yet nonetheless some thing they're no longer prepared to face. do not hardship too a lot. in the journey that they are chuffed jointly, that's all tha concerns contained in the destiny. Shake them haters off!! haha : )
2016-10-16 05:11:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT INTERFERE! Marriage is a pact between 2 consenting adults. Your friend might just as well be playing on your emotions to see where you stand and all he wants might be to just bed you (I am guy...I should know).
Interfering in a marriage is just what it is called, INTERFERENCE. Any adult knows when to say enough is enough and move on, and that decision has to be taken by that person only. Let things be.
2006-10-16 10:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should let him read all these comments so he can see what a sucker he is being. I have never heard of such a thing where a female smacks her man up. I think if she can smack him and get away with he cause he allows it then he deserves it cause he should know he is a MAN not her son or a punk from the street. Tell him to either grow some balls or move on.
2006-10-16 09:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by prettyfalcon197 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
All you can do is support and encourage him. Boost his self-esteem as often as you can!
Let him know that when he is ready to leave, you will help him in any way possible.
If you feel his life is in danger, then I would be agressive about getting him out.
2006-10-16 09:30:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
!st of all let me state some men in this world are so gentlemanly they won't hit back so don't listen to the fools that are saying your friend is not manly.
2) Give surpport maybe evidently he'll divorce the witch
3) If posted this question I would advise him to get divorced.
2006-10-16 09:48:03 · answer #6 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how abusive the marriage is, but no not really as long as it is out concern and not nosieness. just don't get to mixed up in it because that can lead to violence.
2006-10-16 09:31:15 · answer #7 · answered by Plague92 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong but be careful. If he isn't happy he should leave her. Tell him to seek marriage counseling to see if that would help.
2006-10-16 09:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to stay out of it. because if he loves her it could backfire on you! and you will loose a dear friend. he is not stupid and he will know when he has had enough.
2006-10-16 09:31:05 · answer #9 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you need to tell him to grow a pair, and you need to stop letting him tap it out on you.
2006-10-16 09:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by Got2seeit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋