How can i make my marr. between my husband and me better all we do is fight?please help me?

Answer 1

Is this my wife asking this question? j/k Let me know the solution I have the same problem.

Answer 2

It takes two to fight the first thing you need to do is take a deep hard look atyour self and what you are fighting about.

You must make sure you as a person are fighting over things of real substance, another words don't sweat the small stuff and learn which battles to fight. Marrage is nothing but a series of trade offs and negotiation. Chances are you guys both want the same things so got get worked up on the logistic of how you get there maybe silly.

With time this will all fall in place. Do a lot of listening and then take a step back.

additionally sometimes you'll find it becomes more fun when you both agree even though you would rather not

Answer 3

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, "How do I know if I married the right person?" I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, "It depends. Is that your husband?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind.

Here's the answer.
EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fell in love with your spouse. You anticipated their call, wanted their touch, and liked their idiosyncrasies.

Falling in love with your spouse wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love...

Because it's happening TO YOU.

People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet." Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.

Falling is love is easy. It's a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage, the euphoria of love fades. It's the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your spouse might start asking, "Did I marry the right person?" And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage for fulfillment.

Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage. It lies within it. I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.

And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON; IT'S LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It'll NEVER just happen to you. You can't "find" LASTING love. You have to "make" it day in and day out. That's why we have the expression "the labor of love." Because it takes time, effort, and energy, And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage work.

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage.

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It's a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable...you can "make" love.

Love in marriage is indeed a "decision"... Not just a feeling.

Answer 4

I like how these people here seem to know exactly what to do, even though all you've said is that you and your husband fight.

You need to understand that disagreement amongst married peoples is not only common, it's HEALTHY. If you feel that your fighting is impuning on other things in your life, then it becomes an issue.

Before taking any serious steps like divorce (I like the guy who said you outgrew your husband, he has no idea what he's talking about...), you need to sit down with your husband -- maybe make him a nice dinner and rent a movie -- and talk about what's happening in the relationship. Try to identify why you may be fighting so much. If it's because of differing viewpoints, you can relax and just know that you've married someone who has a different ideology about the world, and that you need to work on reaching a compromise. If your husband is simply refusing to open up, you need to make it clear to him that it is important that communication be the basis of any relationship. This doesn't mean talking to one another 24/7 and knowing every single detail about their lives -- mystery is almost as important as communication, in my book. You simply need to have an idea as to where they stand and try to find the common ground that it seems you've lost.

If private intervention doesn't work, you may consider counselling. But, before spending your money, you might want to speak to your friends and relatives about the situation and see if they may be able to make further progress. If your husband doesn't want to do anything but fight with the woman he married, what makes you think he's going to be the ideal marriage counsellor's client? Speak with people that you both trust to keep your problems confidential, and see if this makes any difference. Priests, rabbis, imams, and other spiritual leaders are also usually quite versed in social situations like this -- you can make an appointment by calling any of your local places of worship and inquiring about help for married couples.

Many major cities and large towns also have some form of social help services that you may want to investigate. You can often times be referred to these services by calling your local place of worship, or by calling 411 or the Department of Mental Health in your area. They can recommend you to people who are certified social workers that can assist you and your husband communicate better.

Answer 5

ask yourself what are the arguments about? Then sit back when you are alone and analize the rights and the wrongs. There are many reasons why we fight with our spouses. The Best way to deal with it is talking about it without going into another agruement. If u are anything like me then arguing comes as second nature. Just stop and think it is really worth losing each other over?? Also if there are any children involved sometimes as much as we may not want to as long as he does not touch you to hurt you, we should stay quiet and not argue back. Try this I am sure it will blow his mind. Let him argue by himself for once and dont say anything see the reaction you get, it might help if he has no one to argue with. Then tell him how silly it is to fight all the time, life is way to short. luck.

Answer 6

And the last question you asked is about how to get pregnat faster? Both of you need to learn to talk to each other and look at things from each others point of view. The both of you need to try to do more for the other one than you do for yourself and expect more from yourselves than you do from the other. It takes both of you to do this. Each of you also need to make it a habit to say something nice to each other everyday. This will get you off to a good start. I don't think you need another person to tell you things that you already know and just are not doing right now. You can only work this out if both of you wish to.

Answer 7

I found that my partner always gave in to me being horrible and stubborn, so you could try biting your tongue and being really forgiving and apologetic during an argument, they might start to ease off to. How about a weekend away to spice things up?

Answer 8

Divorce. Sounds like you outgrew each other. Why spend the rest of your lives miserable?

Answer 9

I would really like to talk to you about this but I can't tell you in this one little box I am having problems of my own and i would like to discuss it with you my email address is [e-mail]

Answer 10

have you thought of marrage guidance councilling, if you and your husband go for it it will determine if your marrage will work or not they do get both of you to open up what the underlying problems are that have got you to this stage.