ok, me and this guy dated for 4 months and we were both crazy about each other until one day he told me his feelings changed for me, and i broke up with him because he was confused about his feelings for me. i really love this guy, he was the first guy i dated that made me feel like a person and not a trophe. i blame myself for being heartbroken because i fell in love with him too much. its been a month since the breakup and i still think about him 24-7. ive told him how i feel and he still doesnt love me, i dont expect us to get back together, but i feel confused and lost and im goin nuts. we both agreed we'd be friends since we didnt end on bad terms, but weve only spoken to each other once since we broke up, and that was on the net. im moving out of state soon and i let him know, but i also imcluded in the message " i just thought i should let you know, but you probably dont care anyway" i want to get over him and stop cryin, can someone plz help me how to deal with this?
2006-10-16 09:13:35 · 12 answers · asked by sarah_gotdance 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please do not keep in contact with him. First off it is part of the reason you are hurting. It is giving you the false hope that perhaps he will come around.
It is better to have love and lost then to not have loved. So there is nothing wrong with loving him. Time will heal this pain that you feel inside. You also have to keep yourself open for other guys as there are plenty out there that will treat you like a person and not a trophy. That special guy will might just be around the corner
2006-10-16 09:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First thing to know is that guys are stupid! Obviously if he doesn't care about you now he is missing out on something fabulous. A woman should not be treated like that. You may say that he is the cutest smartest guy you've ever met but the truth of the matter is that if he doesn't give you an explanation than he is not what he is cooked up to be. Girl you need to let go. He isn't worth all the heartache you're feeling. Maybe he was meant for someone else but i know you are meant for someone better. Just remember that there are at least 15 people who love you in some way. Keep smiling and don't let those boys get you down. Chin up and someday prince charming will come along when you least expect it. Good Luck and Best Wishes.
2006-10-16 16:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take time out for yourself; work out, go shopping, concentrate on school or work. Don't let the fact that he's gone ruin your life. Try to improve yourself and love yourself before you jump into anything else. And whatever you do, stop talking to him completely, your not going to get over him if he's always around. Don't have contact with him anymore, if you can't cut him off completely right away, do it slowly if it helps. If he doesn't have the same feelings you have for him then it is not right. You can find someone better who will love you just as much as you love them. If you start thinking about something that will make you cry, distract yourself. Spend time with friends and family more than you used to. Don't dwell on the past or how bad you feel now, think about the future and how much better you will be without him.
2006-10-16 16:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by jbvo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sarah got dance but does Sarah got game come on you said he made you feel like a person and not a trophy that means some times guys go out with you because you look good so get back in the game and win another buck
2006-10-16 16:20:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart if you are moving out of state I wouldn't worry bout it because you might meet another guy that will treat you either the same or better. I was in your situation a year ago and I am still with the same guy. We have a house and a awesome relationship with each other. You'll make it don't worry :)
2006-10-16 16:27:40 · answer #5 · answered by Cutie Pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know only too well how horrible it can feel when a relationship goes like that..I know it sounds like a typical thing to say but time is the only thing that helps..keep yourself busy, go on dates..get your hair done, nails, shopping..whatever makes you happy!..
2006-10-16 16:26:38 · answer #6 · answered by anniemariee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON"T send that in the note, you can't make him care if he doesn't want to, i know this sounds hard but don't talk to him and you WILL get over him, keeping in contact will just make things worse for you
2006-10-16 16:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by AFwife 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When u're gone he'll realize what he had and wishhe could get you back; and if he does If I were u; I would play HARD 2 GET
2006-10-16 16:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just relex and think you've already told him how you feel and that hasn't changed his mind just talk to someone in person about don't let him drive you crazy.
2006-10-16 16:20:16 · answer #9 · answered by lmac009 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do another 1
2006-10-16 16:15:32 · answer #10 · answered by Stryker-58 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋