How is it? I want to hear about your experiences..
I feel numb and unreal..somehow
!9 years of a steady relationship
2006-10-16 08:53:04 · 11 answers · asked by * 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People change. I know I did. I also believe you can fall out of love if you let life's events and circumstances get between you. That changes your priorities. When you don't put each other first - above ALL else - job, money, and yes even kids - you slowly drift apart. By the time you realize it, it's too late. Welcome to the club....
2006-10-16 18:01:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People do fall out of love. Some people don't even realize it. They just get so used to being with that person for such a long time that the person is really just a bad habbit. I think marriage or a relationship takes a lot of work. You dont have the feeling like when you first meet a guy forever. You know...the butterflies and the you cant live without him feelings. No one has them for long. I would say if you truly dont love a person then walk away. God only put us here for a short time so make the best of it. If you truly love him you with all his faults and everything else that goes with a relationship then make it work.
2006-10-16 16:41:00 · answer #2 · answered by JAYNE C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it CAN happen! everyone has a different situation, but what it comes down to is, WHAT we, orselves choose to do about a bad situation! Noone can make up your mind for you!
You have to look at the good and the bad stuff and then make your plans, etc.
If kids are involved, they can get counseling to deal with a divorce, or a separation-----it's NOT the end of the world for them! Sometimes kids need to be taken out of a bad environment, and for that they can GROW in every way!
Some say kids get into drugs and bad things when troubled by a parent's divorce!!!! That's BUNK! Something, usually is causing the drug problems in the first place, be it, the wrong crowd, peer pressures, you name it!
The thing is, at one time or another, couples DO change, and other factors are going to exist also!
It's what you do and are comfortable with that makes the difference. 19 years is a long time in a relationship.
Keep getting feedback, lots of opinions help!
2006-10-16 16:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think alot of things can get in the way of love and split people up>Say you have kids and you don't get to spend quality time together and one of you is left out alot~that alone can cause conflict! But being inlove will turn into just plain ole' love,after the honeymoon leaves-the excitement of each other,getting to know each other leaves,you get used to the person,and you will discover the real person-you may discover you don't like the person you thought you was inlove with,or you may think it's your soul mate-usually after about 2 years you will know how you truely feel in your heart.I say this because i have been there,i am in a similiar situation now-but it's not me that's fallen out of love,and alot have to do with alot of issues in our way! Good Luck!!!!!
2006-10-16 19:19:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It happens...the idea that romantic love is "forever" is a fairy tale...for some it may occur that way but for most, it lasts as long as it lasts...feelings change and people change (and that's okay)...
I fell out of love with my husband after several years of marriage...but I was 19 when we married and didn't really know what "love" was (not in the way I do now, at 41)....
Time heals...I've been there many times...it's cliche' but true...hang in there...
2006-10-16 16:00:16 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
omg I am there with u.I have been married for over 20 yers and i have tow beautiful children by him but i tell u what I cant stan their Dad anymore.He makes good money but we dont sleep together anymore,we dont do anything anymore and Im just abiding my time until My son gets a little older and then Im out of her for good.Im gonna get my life back and Im gonna find me someone who will love me for who I am and someone who will actually do things with me.Ur not alone by far believe me.U need to do what makes u happy as we only have one short time to live and make it count.Hope I helped u out.Take care.P.S. I would have never imagined I would have ever been able to fall out of love with my now husband.
2006-10-16 16:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't believe you can fall out of love. It isn't like a place or thing--it's a state of mind. If you truly love, it's based upon your soul and your mind--these never change so you cannot stop loving someone if you truly loved them in the first place. If he said that he stopped loving you, he never loved you in the first place. Love never stops---ask any parent who truly loves his/her child. Yes, it's a different form of love, but it's the same essence.
2006-10-16 16:02:24 · answer #7 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can love somebody always...
but life needs to go on. no need to hear of my sad a*ss heartaches that were in the past and bring you down even more. but there is life after seperation!
2006-10-16 16:02:41 · answer #8 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a long time!!! It happens do what you have to do to make yourself happy.
2006-10-16 16:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it happens ... i wouldnt be wasting my life on someone that i didnt want to be with ... happened to me we were young when we met and we grew appart ... good luck
2006-10-16 16:20:21 · answer #10 · answered by maureen a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋