She's my girlfriend of 7 months and all and it wouldnt be a bad idea, however she has a sickly daughter and she needs medical insurance. She just lost her job and now I feel like I should do something to show her I am there. We've had our ups and downs, however we seemed to work it out everytime. What do you think I should do?
2006-10-16 08:45:38 · 17 answers · asked by yadedyah_dc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think it's very admirable that you would do something so selfless to help out her daughter. But all the same, it's not really the right reason to enter into a lifelong commitment. There are government health care programs for children, that would help with, if not cover, her health care expenses. Check with your states Health Services Department for information.
Depending on where you work, some companies will let you carry your significant other and their family under common law marriage laws. You might check with your Human Resources department to see if your health insurance provides for common law marriage.
2006-10-16 08:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by ootxmusicgirloo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love her, then yes. But don't marry her just so you can put her on your insurance. Marriage is a huge commitment, not just a decision you can make in 5 seconds. You just said you've had ups and downs. Well, getting married just so you can pay for her daughter's sickness would probably be a big "down" because what if you got married, paid for her daughter's sickness and the two of you decided to get a divorce. You'd have to come up with extra money for the divorce. Tell your girlfriend that you love her, but there are several insurance carriers that will help pay for your daughter's sickness. You don't have to prove to your girlfriend that you love her by marrying her in one week and putting her on your insurance to pay for her daughter's sickness. Just help her find an affordable insurance carrier.
2006-10-16 09:06:14 · answer #2 · answered by sportsgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, 1st of all you can try and help her get on medicaid for herself and her child. In New york there is such a thing as Child Health Plus which is either free or low cost to low income families.
Getting married should only be done for the right reasons.
Marrying her now is a chivalrious and heroic thing to do for the moment. It make YOU feel good thatyou helped someone you care about out, but on the same hand this is someone you will have to be married to for the rest of your life or for at least a very long time and then you may have to go thru a very long and oftentimes a messy divorce. Whereby she will be entitled to almost ALL of your things and money.
This a so a question you need to deeply think and ponder !!!
Make the right choice for YOU
2006-10-16 09:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by rennes89 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her then sure you can get married.... however she also should contact the county and state for medical assistance. A sickly child is a very stressful issue be supportive of her.
2006-10-16 08:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tricia P 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. You should marry her because you love her and not because of her sickly daughter. What if something happens to the daughter? Will you stay together? will she want to ? She sounds selfish to me.
2006-10-16 08:50:17 · answer #5 · answered by jachooz 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do what you feel is best but don't marry someone out of pity. The idea of helping her though is so nice and if you truly do want to help her than do so. And maybe even suggest the idea to her just so that she will know the marriage is to help her but really you are not ready and so take things slow.
2006-10-16 08:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by kiki_t 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should see if your job's health insurance offers a "domestic partner" clause where you'll be able to add her because you all live together. Then wait on the marriage til you know you are ready.
2006-10-16 08:50:49 · answer #7 · answered by Trice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope bad idea theres medicare free for children tell her to go there first of all and second that is basicly the worst reason to marry somone for pitty or to rescue them ..
2006-10-16 08:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by rm4real 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 12:23:20 · answer #9 · answered by huegel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything BUT marrying her to "help her out"!
You are asking for nothing but trouble, and no matter what else, her problems are not YOUR problems.
She needs to take the father of her child to court to get the right kind of child support help; this is HER AND HIS responsibility, NOT YOURS!
2006-10-16 08:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋