He has slammed a door at my face. I let him cool off but later on he said I should have gone after him to talk. I was afraid he would do more than slam doors if I had confronted him, but he swears he would never lay a hand on me in anger, no matter how angry he was. By the way he slammed the door cause I invited him to be alone with me in bedroom and he has watching tv with his kids.
. He thought I was making plans to take him away from his kids. He is going through money problems and losing a job, so he is under more stress than normal. How do I find out if I have to worry about his anger or not? Is that normal or does he have anger issues?
2006-10-16 08:38:21 · 10 answers · asked by Graça 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes, HIS kids from a previous marriage. We have no kids together.
2006-10-19 03:31:35 · update #1
I would say slamming the door in your face is probably just the beginning of a very nasty temper. Say toodle loo to this jerk or be prepared for large medical bill.s
2006-10-16 08:40:41 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he may have just been angry with you. It is never a good idea to go after someone who has just slammed a door in your face so I am glad you didn't it tends ro only make things worse. It is usually better to cool off and then talk about it. If you are worried that he is abusive solelly on the fact that he slammed a door that would make quite a few of us very abusive, I have slammed a fair share of doors in my life but I have never attacted anyone who did not attack me. I wouldn't worry about it unless he becomes physical or mentally abusive. Just keep an eye open to make sure you are not missing the signs. If you don't trust him then I would end this relationship now.
2006-10-16 15:44:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bonnie K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple... your timing was wrong. Apparently, your [BF?] need some support right now because, as you said, he's going through financial problems and soon to lose his job. He's worried... he's under stress. I can understand what and how he's feeling. But believe me, when he promised he would never lay a hand on you, it's most probably true. The solution: give him time to fix his own problem; and you can help if you'd comply to whatever he asks of you except for things that will harm yourself -- example, if he says he wants to be alone for a while, just leave him alone. Keep other problems at bay, otherwise it'll just add up to his worries. He'll apologize to you later (if not sooner) when he realize his mistakes to you.
2006-10-16 16:25:10 · answer #3 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if the man is slamming the door and exhibiting that type of behavior in front of children, that is a pretty bad sign... also, if he thought that the issue could have been resolved by talking, why could he not have asked you to come in the room to discuss it... instead of acting out? He sounds pretty immature, and he definitely needs an upgrade in communication skills.
2006-10-16 15:51:55 · answer #4 · answered by Jaymers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress is no excuse for anger. If he can't get his anger under control he is in danger of doing some physical harm to those around him. That includes the kids and you. I think it is time to tell him to seek help or get out of all of your lives. And that means if you have to get a restraining order do it. You can't change him. He has to want to change and if he can't then it is best to keep him away from your family.
2006-10-16 15:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by rltouhe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you've described doesn't sound good at all. Even you say you're frightened his anger will go further. Follow your good instincts and get out while you can. Remember nobody, male or female or even animal, deserves to be the victim of violence. Good luck finding someone who cherishes you and who doesn't put you down because he has some stress in his life. Doesn't everyone? Don't you?
2006-10-16 15:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by Brenda B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to take anger management classes. He will learn to control hi anger.
2006-10-16 15:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by Christine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With "his kids"?
I would suggest taking a look at any hidden agendas rumbling around within yourself.
2006-10-16 15:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by docjp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a red little ball!
2006-10-16 15:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Don 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T EVER THINK YOU CAN CHANGE A PERSON - END OF STORY!!!!!
2006-10-16 15:40:38 · answer #10 · answered by Who Am I 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋