Please HELP!?

Question

my ex hung and i hung out at his house (at this point we've been broken up for about 4mths)and this was the first time we've hung out as friends outside of school and friends. so we're at his house and alone...it was okay and we were sitting down on a couch playing shout out loud-movies (a movie trivia dvd) and everything was fine and then i got the vibe that he still liked me and he was all over me and acting silly and whatnot and i didnt know what to do with it,so i let him do his little thing. truth is i broke up w/ him because i didnt feel the same way. and at the end of the hangout, it was even weirder cause i didnt know how to say goodbye and he tapped my a** as i was leaving. OK my question is was that just a reaction to him knowing he was in a big house alone w/ the person he likes(and says he loves)?he is the sweetest guy in the world and i think he just does it cause he doesnt know what else to do. SHOULD I : try for another hangout? 2nd time's the charm?or..give u

Answer 1

I don't see the problem with the two of you hanging out as just friends. If you really want to hang out as friends only, next time you should make it clear that that is your intention. Set some boundaries. Make it known to him that the next time you hang out, there needs to be some space and respect as friends and that the old behaviors the two of you had as a couple are no longer allowed. Let him know that you aren't comfortable with it and you'd like to continue to hang out as just friends... and if can't accept that, then you two can't hang out. If he can't accept your decision to leave things platonic, he's not ready for that step and he's not someone you should be around right now, as much as it may hurt you and him.

Just vocalize your boundaries, make it clear to him what's allowed and what's off limits now, and if he can't accept it, you can't be friends.

Good luck.

Answer 2

Persistence is the most effective weapon ever....!

Ciao......John-John.