My best guy friend is doing drugs and i just found out. His dad told me. His dad also said iam the only person who can help him!! The problem is he is in another state and i dont know anything about drugs. I was hopeing that if he knew how much i really do love him it will help him. Does anyone have any advice for me please help!! It hurts to know he is addicted to drugs and he is ruining his life! I promised his dad i would try to help. what can i do?
2006-10-16 08:34:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think that you need to go visit this guy. I don't know about you, but if I told my mom that my friend needed my help fighting drugs, she'd let me drop what I was doing to go help. Then you just need to show him that you really care about him and want him to stop. You need to show him that there is happiness beyond drugs and that he's missing so much life. I think I'm not bad at advice like this, so email me about it, keep me posted. adam.darch@gmail.com Good luck!
2006-10-16 08:37:42 · answer #1 · answered by dropdeadchicken28 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, get educated. I've had friends on drugs and they are no longer the same person - my friend became depressed, irritable, mean, confused and irresponsible. Find out what the symptons and side effects are for the drugs he is taking, this way you will not be surprised when he behaves as he does.
Secondly, this is not something you can fix yourself. Your friend chose drugs and in so doing has put his entire life on the line - including your friendship. It could be years before he really quits and that will be years of worry and concern. Make sure that you are not overwhelmed by his situation. In fact, you might need support for yourself if you are too heavily engaged with his addiction.
Finally, find out support groups and organizations in his area that can help. As I mentioned above, it could take years and you need to live your own life. He needs professional help, somebody who can track his progress and be there when he relapses.
Good luck.
2006-10-16 09:09:56 · answer #2 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa there, cowgirl. There was absolutely no reason for his dad to dump that on you. Your friend's choices are his own, and you are NOT responsible for them. You can be a good friend, and talk to him, but professing your love from afar is only going to confuse the boy. What kind of drugs are we talking about? Maybe he got caught with a joint, and his dad over-reacted. Maybe he's been shooting up and needed hospitalization. What you can do is be supportive. Be careful, heavy drug use can ruin friends.
2006-10-16 08:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try and understand his perspective on doing drugs. Ask him what he likes and listen to him. Get him talking about it. Make a suggestion (dont' demand or criticize.) like "If i was in your situation, i'd probably be doing the same thing". Ask him if there is any way you can help, tell him that you care deeply for him. If his addicted ask him to see a counselor togther with you. Depending on what kind of drugs he is taking. If its weed it shoudn't be addictive.
2006-10-16 08:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make a special trip to visit your friend. If he is close to you as you say he is.
The visit from a distant freind to talk to you about somthing that is meaningful, will make them wonder how much you really care.
However warning, they may not be ready to hear what you have to say, he may not listen to you. If he dont then just walk away and let him make the mistake he must. Usually once you they fall they call those who can be trusted. When he calls afgter falling then show him love do not judge.
My prayers are with you
2006-10-16 08:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is another promise you need to make, and it's to yourself. I very much disagree with your friends dad laying this responsibility on your shoulders, but if you decide to take it, be prepared to remove it if you must. I have been in a similar situation more than once, and the last one nearly destroyed me. It was just sheer dumb luck that I escaped, but my friend alas didn't. Do your best, but if you must walk, do so with the knowledge that you tried. Good luck!
2006-10-16 08:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by ron k 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, no one can help him out but himself. this is a disease. i have been through this with a dear friend of mine, as well. as powerful as "intervention" can be, it all comes down to the user facing the music and getting straight. communication is a big issue. you can try to contact him, let him know his behavior is hurthing many people who care about him, but he may not hear you. you are in a tough spot. it's hard not having any influence, not being able to do anything to help. all you can really do is tell the user how you feel. the rest is up to him. i wish you well. sometimes it does have a happy ending.
2006-10-16 08:43:16 · answer #7 · answered by tree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inasmuch that we care so much for our friends, we can tell them what we think but we cant impose our belief in them. People make their choice and we have to respect them. some people cant help it, and as friends, we should be there to support them and let them know that no matter what happens we are here for them. I know what u are going through..oh how we wish we could change the world, but we cant...friends that do drugs have lots of things to go through....dont add to their misery by nagging at them.
2006-10-16 08:39:41 · answer #8 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot depends on what type of drug he is doing and how much is he doing? Encourage him to stop and encourage him to stop. Look up treatment sites and support groups in his area and send him as much info as possible. If you can go to a couple of meetings with him would help him
2006-10-16 08:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by railcar_exp 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look up drug addiction on the Internet in order to best help your friend.Good luck
2006-10-16 08:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋