2006-10-16 08:24:47 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I feel that he shouldnt look at another women. and are sex life is not what it was I have told him once that i knew and he said that he would stop. But know i dont know what to say to him. It makes me sick the thought that he feels like he need to look at it.
2006-10-16 08:34:23 · update #1
Why haven't you told him that you know? Tell him now. You can't stop him, but if you tell him how uncomfortable it makes you, he should at least get better at hiding it.
As long as you're happy with your sex life, why does it matter what he does as a "hobby"?
2006-10-16 08:30:39 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you told him that you know? Does he know how you feel about it? If not, by all means, TELL HIM.
If he can't stop it, he could be a porn addict. Sounds funny, I know, but they do exist. Treatment is possible through therapy, but the man has to truly want to stop viewing it - and he may not see any harm in it. However, if it is harming your trust in him and the relationship.... it's worth pursuing.
If you have more than one computer, you could set them up on a network with a router, and have his machine be set up as a kids' computer - where adult sites are locked out. To prevent him from looking at it on the other machine, put on a windows password and don't tell him what it is. Of course, you should only do this WITH HIS KNOWLEDGE. If he believes he's a porn addict, he may actually be relieved and consent to it. This is often part of the treatment.
However, if he's getting books/magazines instead of looking online, or renting movies or whatever, your options are much more limited.
Good luck.
2006-10-16 15:32:07 · answer #2 · answered by daydreamr68 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. And the reason he hides it is because he knows you hate it. It is just like you getting turned on by a romantic love scene in a movie. Women like romance men like simple porn. Don't feel like he is looking for better or comparing you to it. It is just his way of fantasy. The more you push for him to stop the more exciting it will be to him.
2006-10-16 15:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by lynx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it really bothers you as much as you state then you need to confront him and let him know. How else can he be aware of your feelings if you do not communicate them to him.
2006-10-16 15:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not watch it with him and then the thrill of watching it behind your back will be gone. Maybe he won't do it as much.
2006-10-16 15:27:37 · answer #5 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋