e.g my past, scolding from my mum, my other half's past where I think I should be the one for her before, when I miss my other half.
2006-10-16 08:19:40 · 7 answers · asked by mia 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Crying is just a sympton. You shouldn't try to stop crying... you should try to change the things that make you cry or your reaction to them.
For example, when you are crying about your past or your other half's past. . . what you need is not to stop crying, but to come to terms with what happened and make peace with it. You need to learn how to accept and love what happened in the past. It made you who you are today -- if your past was different, and if your other half's past was different, then the two of you probably would not be together now. If you love your other half, then you may see that your pasts (painful and horrible as they were) are good for bringing you to this moment.
With your mum, again it's not the crying that needs to change, but the relationship. Maybe try to tell her she can't talk to you like that anymore, or you'll stop talking to her. Or, if that doesn't work, then just ignore it. Realize that it doesn't affect you. "Oh, that's just the way she is. It has nothing to do with me." You can either love her and ignore that aspect, or you can decide that you don't really love her, and just walk out on her.
Obviously I don't know enough to give you all the answers... I doubt anyone does. But what's important is that you *don't* stop crying... but rather that you change the root causes of those tears, which is your perspective that there is something sad.
2006-10-16 08:42:55 · answer #1 · answered by threskiorn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By not thinking so much about those things. They're all in the past and you've moved on so why dwell on them. Also by preparing yourself ahead of time when you start to feel sad or like crying just stop take a deep breath and say no! Then start doing something else call a friend or go get some coffee something to take your mind of it. The more time you spend without crying the easier it will be.
2006-10-16 15:39:55 · answer #2 · answered by honey27 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change the kind of music you love to listen to. You listen too much ballads. Play something like alternative, rock 'n roll... just anything except the ones that affect your emotional side too much. Listening to some (example) heart-breaking music will only remind you of some sad experiences... eventually making you cry over it... which is just lame.
Live the present life. Past is past... it has happened and you can't do anything to correct them or change them unless if you see a sign of opportunity to amend them. You must stick to your heart and mind that crying over past issues will do you no good.
The only exception is, do you enjoy crying over small things? If you do, then only a psychologist can help you.
2006-10-16 17:03:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mike N. D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should see a pycologist tell her how you feel and Im sure she will be happy to help you out hope you stop crying and start smilling take care :)
Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you turn your attention to other things, it comes and sits softly on your shoulder.
2006-10-16 15:28:48 · answer #4 · answered by lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop crying over small stuff
2006-10-16 15:24:33 · answer #5 · answered by phillytocalifornia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think that you have to stop cutting onions everytime and using pepper gas as a deodorant
2006-10-16 15:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by otaku_125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could change your life by moving away from the old negative surroundings and move into new positive surroundings.
2006-10-16 15:53:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋