my ex is wanting a third chance he left me back in Apirl to be with another woman and he has been writing me telling me how bad he's messed up and I'm the only that has had faith in him and never gave up on him I just don't know if I should give him a third Chance my heart is on the line . and it will be hard to trust it won't just be there so what should I do? serious answers
2006-10-16 08:17:58 · 48 answers · asked by crazygurl_28 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i dont know its all up to you but just remember all the good times you had with him and how much you miss being without him i have kind of the same situation like yours but the only thing was that he lied to me he had told me he loved me and at the same time that he was with me he had a baby with another girl so i think that its all up to you!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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2006-10-16 08:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You are right - it would be very hard to trust this person again. I can tell you from experience, because my first husband ran with every woman he could get to go with him. I let him come home after the first time, because we had small children. However, he just continued to do the same thing again and again. After he left the second time, in about three months he wanted to come home again, but I said no. By this time, I figured he only wanted to come back when he was in between his lady friends. I would never have trusted him and you can't have marriage unless there is trust. I did not give my husband a third chance, and I am glad that I didn't. I feel sorry for you and I know what you are going through. I loved my husband very much, but I knew it was not going to ever be any different. If you decide to let him come home, then you will just have to live with the fact that he will probably do it again. If you decide not to let him come back, believe me, you will get over it. If there is no trust, I know it won't work out. Turn this over to God and He will help you. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-16 08:27:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get back with him, everyone deserves a 2nd chance but in giving him one you may have lead him to believe you could be toyed with, if you give him a 3rd chance he'd just keep on trying to take advantage of you and would most likely eventually break your heart. It's best to play it safe, say no - no matter how much it pains you to do it, he may well have got cuter but that should do nothing to your judgement he's already messed you around once, don't let him make a habit of it. No guy is worth the pain and hassle of being messed with. Hope this helps x
2016-03-28 11:57:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
third chance, no way. Let me tell you something. Marriages that last, last only because of friendship and honesty. If you gave him chance # 2, then that should have given you the clue. My daugher after giving #2 ended up being very sad, but found out later that she could have easily given chance #3, chance # 4, where do you draw the line. In my book dump him.
2006-10-16 08:24:18 · answer #4 · answered by edna_romano_1943 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy, give him the finger girl and show him the door. Why would you even want him after he has left you for another woman. You don't need somebody who has screwed up three times already. Take my advice get out there find a man who deserves you and let your ex see and know exactly what he is missing
2006-10-16 08:21:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll share something with you out of personal experience......
I was in a relationship that I despartely tried to "make" work. We broke up and got back together 6 times. Every single time, things started off good, and within weeks they were worse than the time before. Every break up was more disasterous than the first.
I'd leave it alone. You can't relight a struck match. It's only going to get worse.
2006-10-16 08:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by ezenbrowntown 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So let me get this straight... he obviously messed up before, came crawling back for mercy and messed up again. Now he is throwing himself at your feet again. He probably does mean the things he says... now. But once you take him back and things get "back to normal" you can probably expect him to end up right where he is now... gone. Some guys do not have the capcity to be faithful. I wouldn't take the chance. No matter who you are, you deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are, enough to stick with you even when something "better" comes along.
2006-10-16 08:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by ootxmusicgirloo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, because if he messed up on the second chance he will mess up on the third chance for sure but it maybe a little longer from last time.
2006-10-16 08:20:33 · answer #8 · answered by Demonic Soul 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i don't think i would ever date an ex..
they're an ex for a reason..
if it didn't work out two times before chances are a third isn't going to make much of a difference..
perhaps if you meant so much to him in the first place he wouldn't have left you in the first place..
you can't be with someone you can't trust.. its just going to make you worry, and your not going to feel right..
it doesn't sound worth it to me..
to little too late
2006-10-16 08:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you feela bout giving him a 3rd chance? It all comes down to your feelings about things. Personally, i think that 2nd chances are bad enough, but a 3rd? for me, no way. but if you think that he really does deserve another chance and that you still have feelings for him, then give him one LAST chance. i'm not one to cut of people just b/c they made a mistake but two times is bad. i don't want to see you give this guy the 3rd chance and come back here again asking about the 4th chance. make it clear to him that this is FINAL! no more mistakes or negotiations. good luck!
2006-10-16 08:22:32 · answer #10 · answered by M.Y 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would not. If he left you once for another woman, he'll do it again. Or worse, he may not leave you, but still be out with other women. Trust is the one commodity you can never gain back in a relationship once it is lost.
2006-10-16 08:20:31 · answer #11 · answered by coasterbuff99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋