How is your relationship working out?
Are you dealing with certain issues of the divorce or bitter exes?
any chat is welcomed
2006-10-16 08:16:43 · 7 answers · asked by maxine553 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I had an affair with a married coworker. I was also married but I found him to be my soulmate. We had each been married over 20 yrs but neither of us were really happy. That was 4 yrs ago and now we are married and I am happier than I have ever been. My feelings for him are so much stronger than they ever were with my first husband. We are blissfully happy!!
2006-10-16 08:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by Billie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you could call it an affair. I was dating my now ex husband. And seeing his friend on the side. When we got married I stopped seeing him. Some how I thought it was OK to cheat before you got married. But once you got married it wasn't. I didn't see him for about 7 years. I ran into him back in May. Found out we were both single again. So we're right back where we left off. It's going great so far.
2006-10-16 10:40:19 · answer #2 · answered by danadeville 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married and he was engaged. We mostly just talked on the phone, but saw each other, and slept together, a couple of times in a one year time frame. We went about 3 months without talking, then one day he called me. He had broken off his engagement, and I was seperating from my husband. We got together, and have been together ever since. It's been two years now. It is a fairly long distance relationship, so it's not always easy, but we love each other, and spend every weekend together.
I sometimes worry that if he cheated on his fiance with me, then would he cheat on me with someone else? I've always heard that if they'll cheat with you, they'll cheat on you. Kind of hard for me to think about though, considering I did the same thing.
My ex husband found out I was seeing him, so he retrieved old cell phone records and found out that we had been talking for a long time while I was married. It took a long time for him to stop calling me a cheating *****, but now that he's in a happy relationship himself, he's totally over it. We're actually friends now, and get along better than we ever have.
2006-10-16 08:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by HotK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I were both in relationships when we met. She was married I was living with a girl I had been with for almost 2 years, but neither one of us were happy. We ended up leaving them and getting together, and then getting married, and have been now for 3 1/2 years. The good is really good and the bad really bad. There have often been times when one or both of us think it's over or say hurtful things because we are insecure. I don't believe that "once a cheater always a cheater", but I don't deny there are definite insecurities and issues because of how we came about to be together. I think, if you're ever in this situation, you won't be able to stay together without help, real help. I'm talking about counseling, and lots of good communication, and God. Without his help, it's almost impossible for any couple to stay together, especially if there was ever a past. My ex is still quite ugly to me, as I never wanted to marry her, and she got pregnant to try to force me to stay, but I left shortly after the baby was born. I love my daughter and take very good care of her, just not her mother, and she's still jealous of the life I've given to my wife instead of her. My wife's ex hated me and wanted to kill me, but has cooled off, and got over it pretty well. Hope this helps. Remember, with God's help all things are possible, but without him it probably won't last.
2006-10-16 08:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Matt B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i have been with her 3 years now .its been a good 3 years and we are togeter all the time . my marrage was at a end and i was there for the kids but when i meet her ,ifound i had to have her . my kids was 17 and 16 by this time and i left. of course issues with exes wil come up keep it open and work through it.
2006-10-16 08:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by hm10s4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Years ago, when I was young and foolish (and another reason to wait until your older to marry) I was engaged to a girl and cheated on her with another girl. I married the other girl, had two kids with that girl, and divorced that girl. So ten years later, how is it going? Well not good, not good at all.
2006-10-16 08:41:27 · answer #6 · answered by Shadow 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't really have an affair with him he was sperated from his wife when we started dating. but it has worked out pretty well we are now married have a good life.
2006-10-16 08:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by cc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋