Would you call a girl beautiful even if she wasn't?

Question

Would you tell you're best friend she's pretty even if she wasn't? But you said that because she asked?

Wow, that's alot of answers. THANX TO ALL! But man it's going to be hard to choose a best answer.

Answer 1

There is no harm in flattering a person, and it definitely will help their self-esteem. However, there are instances were such compliments can have a negative effect.

Let me offer an example of how unmerited flattery can actually have deleterious effects. I know for a fact that a good portion of the black culture has a tendency to make light of women who are, shall we say, a bit on the rotund side; even going so far as to say that they are attractive. This compliment does more harm than good. It gives these women the hope that being big is okay, when in fact it is stigmatized by most of society that exists outside of the black culture, and carrying extra weight can have grave health consequences.

I think if your friend asked you whether she is beautiful, its okay to appease her by saying yes. However, if she is significantly overweight it might be better to be honest with her. It might offend her, but being offensive, especially in the area of a person’s size might benefit them more than a false compliment.

Answer 2

I would tell her she's beautiful. If she isn't attractive, why would she need to know anyway? It will only hurt her feelings and make her have low self esteem. I'm sure if you tell her she's pretty, it will boost her self esteem and make her have a beautiful personality and maybe someone will meet her and think she's pretty because of her personality and just think, her future could depend on just you telling her she's beautiful.. I know it sounds superficial but women and yes, men too, care how they look to other people..it's a harsh world out there.

Answer 3

Yeah.

Supposedly being pretty is all about confidence. Being told you're pretty is a total self confidence booster.

Then again she might be able to tell you're just saying that because their best friend.

My friends try to tell me I'm pretty all the time but, I don't believe it. When the only people that tell you you're pretty are your mom and you friends it's pretty obvious you're not. I mean they're your mom and friends that's what they're supposed to say. No guys ever say I look pretty or hott or whatever. It sometimes bothers me but others it doesn't because I just learned to live with my uglyness.

Answer 4

depends on if she is sensitive. Then of coarse i would say something beautiful. Even if someone doesn't have a BEAUTIFUL look, or a BEAUTIFUL attitude, everone is beautiful somehow! i mean you could be ugly, and have a beautiful personality. You should always be truthfully honest with your friend. Don't be hurtful with saying they're ugly, just say the positive things about them. Everyone is Beautiful. Even if you have to dig down deep.

Answer 5

Depends on the person. I've never been put in that situation before. Everyone I know has their own special beauty. So, I guess if I had too I would bend the words a little if their not physically attractive. Like your cute or something like that.

Answer 6

I definitely would. Especially if she was one of those people who was gorgeous on the inside. I actually got in "trouble" the other day cuz I told a guy he did the right thing by telling this "ugly" girl that she wasn't. Yes it is a lie, & we aren't supposed to lie, but if it saves someone's feelings & u are genuine w/ concern for them & not yourself, than I would sacrifice myself to sin as well. Ugly people are ugly on the inside to me, you know - selfish, self centered, jealous, mean, ignorant, stubborn, etc. Beautiful people can be radiant in the room even if they're ugly. Besides, I think everyone's gorgeous.

Answer 7

Honesty is the best policy. You can say you are beautiful on the inside that is what counts. Make sure you tell her she is not UGLY or anything like that but point out her strong assests instead of answering her question outright.

Answer 8

It would depend on why she was asking. If she was being obnoxious and saying that everyone is jealous of her good looks, then turned around and asked me if she was beautiful, I would probably not say yes, but not say no either. If she was looking for validation because someone else had called her ugly, I would tell her she was stunningly beautiful.

Answer 9

Have you ever seen a beautiful girl and thought how lovely until she opened her mouth and that just kills every thing. Physical beauty is just outward.Sounds like this friend needs some reassuring about her looks. Pick out a nice feature(eyes,mouth,legs,whatever)praise her in that.

Answer 10

If it were me, I would say it in a way that I was saying the words, but one would be able to tell how heartfelt I meant it.

That can be the best way sometimes. It lets them know that you care enough not to hurt their feelings, but also enough to let them know that they have room to improve.

(That might sound a little harsh, but if you've watched any teenage movie where the ugly girl just needed to stop wearing baggy clothes, loose her glasses, and touch up her hair, then you know that ANY girl can look drop dead gorgeous if they just find the right popular girl to befriend her!)