2006-10-16 07:58:24 · 10 answers · asked by littlemomma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you mean someone else, they have to want to change. If they don't, don't waste your time around them. That kind of person can be dangerous. Not only do they sap your energy having to deal with them, they can often turn abusive. Don't get involved if possible. Jealousy is a sign of feeling inferior and lacking trust.
If you mean yourself, ask why yourself why you feel jealous. Do you feel that the other person is better than you (they most likely are not, by the way). Everyone has insecurities and fears. It's when we let them rule our lives that we need to make a conscious effort to figure out why we are feeling the way we are. If you feel left out of the other person's life or they aren't paying attention to you, speak up. Don't accuse, just say "I'm feeling this way about (fill in the blank). Would you do (fill in the blank) for me? Start from there. Accusing and demanding only makes the other party less inclined to help you feel better. Good luck!
Finally, is what is making you or the other person jealous a small thing, such as he looks at someone else, wants a boys' (or girls') night out, etc.? Not to look at another person is an unreasonable expectation. Do you not look at other people? If so, why would you expect the other person not to? That is pretty much hard wired into our brains. It's not disloyal, only normal. Same with a night out with friends. Spending 100% of your time together is a sure way to burn out a relationship. What would you have to talk about if you didn't have outside interests. See if the small things that annoy you or him are signs of something bigger.
2006-10-16 08:09:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
On the anger side - have some agreed rules upfront - E.g. As soon as he starts losing it you walk away and only commence a disucssion again when he is back in control of himself
This starts the process of changing behaviours slowly - but it isn't easy
On the jealousy front - it depends. Do you think he is justified for being jealous? Do you behave in a way that makes him insecure? If so then you need to change that - If he is being unreasonable then you need to get him to justify why he feel jealous and work a way out together that gives you the freedom you need and him the security he needs
2006-10-16 15:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by misscynic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best way is to just move on find someone else and hang out with your friends and family go out for the weekends you should know the rest.
2006-10-16 15:02:14 · answer #3 · answered by yaucogurl_2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date someone who doesn't bring out those qualities in you but makes them a thing of the past.
2006-10-16 15:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you pick up that phone , like you are going to call the police an i bet u will see a big change real fast! when he knows you will not tolerate the silly sh*it , he will stop!
2006-10-16 15:20:02 · answer #5 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catch him looking at someone else and show him how it feels !
2006-10-16 15:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reassure him that he's the one. If that doesn't work, say goodbye!
2006-10-16 15:00:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
smoke a cig
2006-10-16 15:15:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
lots of communication and lots of patience
2006-10-16 15:01:39 · answer #9 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid
2006-10-16 15:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by fredi b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋