wife and i are seperated. she says she loves me but not in love with me. we were at same bar saturday and everyone said she was watching me the hole time she was there. i use her cpu and i have noticed she is keeping all the email and im's, letters. WHY WOULD SHE KEEP THEM???????
2006-10-16 07:58:15 · 8 answers · asked by bigt83074 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Loving somebody & being "In love" with somebody are two different things. Keeping them shows that she cares and yeah probably loves you. But something is missing between you and you need to find out what happened between the time she married you to now. I would hope she was "in love" with you to take that step. I mean if you are wanting to get back together you should.
2006-10-16 08:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by tygernside 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the magical and psycho world of women.
As a woman myself, I can tell you that we are for the most part we are emotional beings when it comes to relationships. As a result, we don't always behave the way we said we would. Therefore, although your ex says she does not want to be with you, that does not mean that she is prepared to completely let go and specially see you with some one else.
As a matter of fact, she probably feels more for you now that you are no longer together. It is easier to romanticize about how your relationship was than to actually be in a relationship with you. Women are great at that.
So please do not read too much into the fact that she is watching you and holding on to mementos. If she hasn't actually come back to you and said that she wants to be with you, simply assume that she is just trying to hold on to the memories of your relationship and nothing more.
I am sorry :(
2006-10-16 08:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by jules_xcess 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey women are complicated beings!! Sounds like she is not over you and therefore wants to hold on to some of the things that you shared together - you say you are separated - does that mean you are not divorced?? Are you planning to be diveror just trialling a separationg?? It coul dbe that she isn't fully decided on whether she wants it to be fully over or not
2006-10-16 08:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by misscynic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sentimental reasons is one possibility. I still have letters and gifts from my first husband. My husband now still has pictures and gifts from his old girlfriend before me. It's a part of our lives that made us who we are, so why not keep them. Plus it helps us remember better times with the ex and that can help with the forgiveness and letting go. For me, too, I have memory problems, and it helps me recall that time in my life.
2006-10-16 08:03:10 · answer #4 · answered by Asha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe for old times sake, who knows? Just keep living your life and keep your distance, time will take care of this, but we can't rush another person, or judge them according to our standards.
2006-10-16 08:06:52 · answer #5 · answered by ron k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who knows why she would keep them. but why should you give up if you have that string of hope to hang onto , right? play hard to get and play like you are over it. this will bring her back faster than anything!
2006-10-16 08:08:32 · answer #6 · answered by kierstead 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if she truly doesn't love you, she needs to have the ego boost of knowing that you love her.
She's insecure and selfish.
2006-10-16 08:01:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She mostly likely misses the way you guys were.
2006-10-16 08:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋