i am only 16, but i honestly believe with all of my heart that i have found my sould mate. My fiancee Joseph, he's 19, but he truely is the LOVE OF MY LIFE!!!! He treats me VERY well. When i am sick, he takes such good care of me...fixes me supper, drinks, help me to the bathroom...everything. He is always telling me how much he loves me and how much i mean to him. It's been 4 months now since the engagement and it is still great. I plan on moving in with him ths June....and not getting married until next june...that way i can be sure that everything won't change...is this smart.....what is your opinion on my situation....BTW...my mom really likes him....(big factor)
2006-10-16 07:44:22 · 41 answers · asked by ~Welcome Abigail Grace~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You sound a lot like my daughter, who basically did the same thing. She (& he) has a good head on her shoulders and their marraige is still working.
By the way, I thought she was too young to make such a decision. My wife at the time agreed with her. Shows how much I know =( Sounds like your heart and head are in the right place. and I have grandchildren older than you. The Best to the 2 of you ;=D
2006-10-16 07:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a great guy. Caring, attentive, and your Mom liking him is a big plus. But you are so very young, both of you. There are so many factors that will come into play when you get married. Money is a big factor. Buying a house, paying for college (yours and your kids), buying a car, credit card debt. Not to mention the fact that between 16 and 21 alone guys and girls go through HUGE changes. I mean HUGE!! You have NO IDEA what you'll be feeling as a woman that you don't feel now as a young girl. And if this isn't enough to convince you to wait, think about this.. Over %50 of marriges end in divorce. The fact that your not even out of high school is like tripleing the odds against you too. You are too imature (no offense hon) to understand marriage. If you weren't imature you would know it's best to grow up before taking such a serious step in life. Live a little first. Don't consciencely make such rash decisions. These types of decisions can become your biggest regret later. If you really love him, you would let him grow into a man before you marry him. He deserves to have his adolecense and so do you.
2006-10-16 07:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
take your time and that's swell if your mom likes him, but do his family like you> Next year is even good or even wait another six months after june which will be December to make sure you to are met together for real. People do change when they get married. iam 30 been married at 17 going on 18 straight graduating out of school. Don't marry while in school . Hes a man now. you are not developed a woman until 18 . don't rush. i was pregnant when i graduated and then got married 2months after i graduated. it last for three years. love goes a long way and love hurts in so many ways. they say people have to experience things themselves before they take heed in what someone else says. don't rush the move yet either. it least wait until that eighth month youll see. privacy is a big thing in when in love. but your feelings come first. follow your gut feelings to. even when you feel its something the other person is not doing you wouldn[t imagine their doing guess what they are. I live that? and now/ good luck just my opinion that's all. prayer is the key 1#. you can write me back if you want. have a bless day. badgirlcheerbadgirlworkbadgirllo@yahoo.com
2006-10-16 08:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by cuddle me softly as soft as can get 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please honey wait to get married. If you guys love each other and want to be with each other then it can wait a few years. You need time to experience life. Do the things that girls do like stay out all night and party without having to answer to anyone, shop til you drop and not have to worry about the lights getting turned off. things like that. I know my answers seem really simple but i can guarantee those are just a few of the things you will miss if you get married. and wait to have kids. I'm telling you if I could be 16 all over again I would have changed a lot of things i did in life. Just wait.
2006-10-16 08:07:46 · answer #4 · answered by GG 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you're looking for affirmation when it comes to being engaged at sixteen, I can't give it to you. Every sixteen-year-old thinks their boyfriend is the love of their life and that they'll get married and have babies and live happily ever after.
That's how I was at that age. That's how everyone was at that age. I was nuts about my high school boyfriend! But BOY am I glad I didn't hitch my wagon to him, so to speak.
I would definitely urge you NOT to get married until you have finished your schooling (and that includes college). Even if you are certain that this is the man you want to spend the rest of your life with (and I suspect that in a few years you'll see the light) don't you want to be able to support yourself if something happens to your husband? Suppose you have children to support and your husband passes away (God forbid). You'll wish you'd gotten a degree to support them.
It is not wise to get married at 16. You may not believe me now, but you'll see in a few years.
2006-10-16 07:49:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lanani 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not smart. People change alot from 16 to 20. If it is true love then it would still be true love in 4 years. What is the hurry? I question where your mother is in all of this
2006-10-16 08:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by dumpllin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing you might consider....
He is sweet now
He seems like the right one Now
But boys don't turn into men until they have reached a maturity level of sorts...most associated with a man of about 25-27. Before then whats seems to be a good man who really cares about you can change in a heart beat...because a man evolves daily until he matures... do yourself a favor.... wait 2 years to move in...... at least 3 after that to get married.... if it's still together then...your odds of success just went up.
But I can assure you.... move in next year and married the next.... you'll be divorced by 25... and probably with 2 kids by then...
THINK THINK THINK
If he's Mr right.... waiting won't hurt... cuz he'd still be there.
marriage is work! Why start working now..... enjoy life first, then work the rest of your life.
2006-10-16 08:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds too good to be true- literally.
I would definitly wait until after high school to make such a big commitment. If he really loves you, he will understand and wait.
Your education is really the most important thing now. I guess as long as you take your time you'll be okay- just wait to have kids.
2006-10-16 07:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by person 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you will possibly be engaged at any age by way of fact being engaged does not propose something. that's in basic terms what you intend to do sooner or later. you may not definitely do something approximately it till you're 18. yet once you're asking no rely if it extremely is a sturdy theory to get married as quickly as you may, then no. it extremely is a foul theory.
2016-10-16 06:34:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you don't seem to understand is that it all WILL change. Maybe not by next June, but eventually. Everybody changes throughout their lives. What you must be sure of, is that you will continue to love each other through the changes to come.
THAT is what takes time, and THAT is why you should wait. Go through some major changes together first. See if your love flourishes or falters.
2006-10-16 07:52:40 · answer #10 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋