My husband told he last week that he wanted a divorce and I was shocked most people see it coming I didn't now heres the tricky part he is still staying at the house and when he gets home from work he acts like nothing happened he jokes and laugh and we are us again but he will not talk about the divorce or get help so what am I suppose to think does he want me to go or just wants to see if I will?
2006-10-16 07:34:44 · 9 answers · asked by Christine R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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Stop guessing around.
Don't wait for him to tell you.
Just ask him to leave, and you'll know.
2006-10-16 08:49:30 · answer #1 · answered by Carlos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, do you want a divorce?
From the tone of your posting it sounds like you want to stay together. If that is the case, the issue then becomes why did your spouse say that he no longer wanted to be married.
You say that you did not see it coming. Is that because you both seemed happy?
Have any of his behavior patterns changed? Is he depressed?
If he is not depressed and no life altering events have occurred, you may have a non-commital partner. Something to keep in mind (taking in to account how he behave after he dropped this bomb), is that there is a large portion of the population that wants companionship but not full fledged commitment. If your husband is one of those people, you will find that he wants to joke, laugh, and spend some time with you but he does not want to be married. If that is his position, you have a choice to make--do you want to live in constant fear that tomorrow will be the day he finally leaves you or leave him while you are still sane.
2006-10-16 08:10:52 · answer #2 · answered by jules_xcess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you are going thru about five years ago I went through the same thing just out of the blue my exhusband said he wanted a divorse I was floored I did not have A clue I tried fighting for him to stay but he eventually walked out on me and three kids I was devestated, but I got over it met some one new and got remarried my ex was the one who regretted every thing it eventually made him litterally go crazy If I was you I would let him see you can make it with out him.
2006-10-16 07:49:36 · answer #3 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start the process of divorce. Because he wants it, and I know it might seem like things are going ok, but one of these days you are going to find he has already cheated or is going to. Don't let him threaten you with those things, even if he is fooling. He is putting worry in you that you don't need. That called verbal abuse, you are a smart girl. Good Luck
2006-10-16 07:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by prettyartisichuskey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So give him what he says he wants. Start the process of filing for divorce (ie. finding an attorney, mediator) see if he really steps up or tells you that he made a mistake and didn't mean it.
2006-10-16 07:39:48 · answer #5 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could take one of 2 approaches. One is to sit him down and make him tell you what he wants. The other is to wait until he's ready to tell you what he wants. Sounds like he's trying to manipulate you into making the decision for him. Don't play his game - let him make his choice and live with the consequences.
2006-10-16 07:41:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely call a lawyer and get some advice as to what to do next.
Start looking for a place to move to.
2006-10-16 08:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by kitt_kattkitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he told you that he wants a divorce then give it to him, why would you want to stay with someone that doesn't want you
2006-10-16 07:40:21 · answer #8 · answered by waynekirsten 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what does that mean and what does it entail
Ask him when is he going to get the process started
2006-10-16 08:12:09 · answer #9 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋