hi well i have been with my boyfriend for 3years and we have a little baby boy together i love him alot and iam still in high school, but just lastnight we asked me to marry him and i didnt say anything i told him i need time to think? one thing is that i do want to study still and he said thats kool but that he wants to get marry and be a family what should i do?
2006-10-16 07:33:06 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my baby is 6months and i love him as much as my boyfriend i think more lol but i dont know if its the right time? he really loves me and our baby
hes in high school to and we both work and we always have time for our baby and i do think its the right time i just say that because we just had the baby and my real name is marlen cindy is my mid name
2006-10-16 07:34:07 · update #1
You can still continue with your education if you are married. If you are in love with him and want to get married, then go for it
2006-10-16 07:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by aliciarox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teenage parents. Oh my goodness, I have a friend whos a father, he was about 17 or 18 when he got his ex pregnant. She now has custody of him and she's like every other mom---do what ever it takes to keep the child away from the father. Why? They are EVIL! My mom was the same with me and my brother. She would keep us far away from my dad, even if we wanted to visit him. It was jeolousy, I suppose.
Ask him if he's really ready to commit to taking care of your baby, since you two made him and brought him into this world! If he's unsure, tell him that it's okay and he has all the time in the world to decide when he is ready. You shouldn't try to pressure him, instead, encourage him to think about what he thinks is the best. He, if he lives with his parents, could take him a few nights a week, just to give you some rest. Thats commitment and being responsible to you and the child. Ask him for support, in anyways that he can.
You two will become closer if you take a day and spend it together. Try to make it on the weekend, it'll really help with connecting when it comes to the baby and the father. You owe him that much. Don't marry unless you and the father know you are ready to marry. He's just a teenager, he shouldn't really be doing this at his age, whatever it is!
2006-10-16 07:41:52 · answer #2 · answered by Christina M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not marry just because you had a child together. If he's the guy for you, he'll be happy with being together til you both finish school and decide you are right for each other. People can still be great parents without being married. Being married is a lot of work, and you both should concentrate on the baby right now.
2006-10-16 07:38:51 · answer #3 · answered by Bky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great u guys are still in school and still have time to be parents. Dont get married just because u have a child together. Just talk to him and let him know u want to wait. It is a big change.. Been thier done that. I got married at a young age myself and now im divorced and 26 single mother with a 3 year old. Just think about what u are doing.. Good luck to u..
2006-10-16 07:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by blue eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you love him, but that the main thing is that you both finish your education and be parents to that child. Tell him there is plenty of time to get married when you both are a little more mature. Tell him to give it a year and see what happens. Maybe get pre-engaged then. Tell him to buy you an inexpensive (but pretty) ring so that the both of you can use it as a symbol of your good faith towards each other. That is what my husband did for me. First we were pre-engaged with a cute gold ring with hearts and diamond chips. Then when he was working full-time and a little more mature he bought me an engagement ring. Then we planned a small wedding and are living happily ever after. Good luck Honey!!
2006-10-16 07:39:59 · answer #5 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you are in school. If you are still living with your parents. Maybe time to plan the future. You love him & he's your baby's father & he wants the child. Wow, that is an excellant start to thee future. You both need to finish your education though. That will help your future a great deal. Maybe it is time to sit down with your parents & with his and discuss the future. They have been there & done this & they may well be able to help you plan. This is a serious descion to make. Life can be rough on young people.
2006-10-16 07:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great that he wants to be a family but I dont think you should get married because of the baby. If you're having a great relationship, great but dont do it "just because of the baby".
2006-10-16 07:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Figure your goals, develop a plan, figure besides loving your boyfriend, will he be beneficial for you in five to ten years, then evaluate your options and come to decision. Remember, at your age, even with a lil one, your whole life is ahead of you. Good luck.
2006-10-16 07:40:07 · answer #8 · answered by Brad 2000. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi follow your heart if you feel it is not the right time then do not rush into anything ok . if he love you and the baby like you say then he will wait. if you rush something it has its way of making an ugly turn
2006-10-16 07:39:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey i was with the guy for 5 years and we have an 18 month old together, and even though he's said he wants to marry... he's made me wait so long that i don't want him anymore.... so don't hold you breathe move on to someone better
2006-10-16 07:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋