My friend is going through a problem: the guy she's with has plenty of money and sometimes spends it freely on her, and other times he is a tightwad. When he spends, does it mean he loves her that day and the tightwad days he's not so happy with her? She knows he has tons in the bank yet sometimes he says "I'm low on cash this week" and wants to skimp. It really irritates her because she is confused why he keeps swinging back and forth. Any ideas?
2006-10-16 07:27:46 · 11 answers · asked by Ade 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He probably feels guilty for the way he's treated her and wants to make it up on the days he spends a lot on her. Or, he may be trying to manipulate her to keep her around, thinking she needs the money.
2006-10-16 07:33:57 · answer #1 · answered by Bky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't think money equals love at all. I have a lot of money in the bank, but it is for my future and that guy might be saving for his future also. My husband never has the same paycheck. When that guys paycheck is a little bigger he might splurge a little. Where as the weeks that his week is smaller he might try to stick to his budget more. On those weeks he shouldn't have to go and take money out of savings. Some of the best dates can be dinner and a movie at home. Just the 2 of you. I believe it is how a man treats you when you are dating...the love he shows and his caring ways that are more important. If he is all for himself...then dump him now!
One other thing...my step kids Mom buys them anything they want, but doesn't give them the time of day while they are visiting her house. I have told my step kids hundreds of times that money can't buy you love or friendship.
2006-10-16 14:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that he only allows himself to spend a certain amount. If he overspends one day he has to make up for it the next and skimp. She really ought to stop thinking he's just there to spend money on her too. Afterall it's HIS money in the bank not hers.
2006-10-16 14:31:29 · answer #3 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.
Changes are the reason he has alot stashed away IS because he is tight some weeks. If he spent all of his play money on her the week before I can understand why he would be tight on money. If he acts like he always has lot of money to spend then he would probably have less is savings.
2006-10-16 14:35:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Money is not important. If that's the basis of the relationship, then eventually it will fail. He may be low on cash, because he is saving or investing it. It's his money, and if she is there just for the money she should get out.
2006-10-16 14:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by chellie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn around is fair play.....maybe she should pay for "stuff" once in a while...Why is it always the man who is expected to pay....
How does she know he has "tons of $$ in the bank" and what business is it of hers anyway.
Is she only dating him because he will buy her "stuff" and appears to have lots of $$, or is she dating him because she likes him and he's a decent human being?
2006-10-16 14:39:11 · answer #6 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with money have money because the don't JUST spend it.
He may feel "Does she love me or my money?"
Will she dump him if he stops sending money on her?
Money buys "things". So maybe his NOT spending says he loves her. Ever think of that one?
2006-10-16 14:35:32 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ure friend needs to look beyond the money to see if this guy loves her - why does she need his money anyway??
2006-10-16 15:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by misscynic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you or your girlfriend relate money to love in any way, then you're both really f*cked up and immature.
2006-10-16 14:42:25 · answer #9 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your friend might be a bit of a gold digger....love and money have nothing to do with one another.....she needs to grow up.
2006-10-16 14:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋