I'm a quiet person but when i talk in Voice chats for example, i have a good time with the people i talk to and they tlel me i'm fun. But in my real life, i'm always alone everywhere i go and i don't smile..i just keep a neutral face. So people think i'm not friendly? and they consider me not friendly just because of how i keep my face ?
2006-10-16 07:24:10 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Communication happens on SO many levels, and the words we speak are a mere fraction of the total message. Most communication occurs through body language, facial expressions, hand gestures etc...
If you tell me that you are happy, but have a frown on your face, which would you expect me to believe?
In other words, our words can say what we think, but our face and demeanor tell the truth of what we are feeling inside. You cannot force a smile, it never looks natural and people will not buy it.
In Voice Chats the communication is based on the content of your words... That's great that you've masterd chat communication, but, I'd also look to practicing communication in real life. Your body is an incredible tool if you learn how to use it correctly.
I would look for dancing as a fun way to get comfortable with your body and learn about its power as an expressive tool. And if you are really ambitious, acting classes.
I don't know if you are friendly or not, but I do know that I am intimidated by people who do not smile. The greatest moment you can share with another human being is a good laugh - a smile is pretty close.
2006-10-16 08:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by nutty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also am a quiet person. I do not talk to people that I do not know, and therefore people think that I am stuck up, but I'm not. The way I go about it is to try to smile more often. When I go somewhere with friends and meet new people I at least say hi and give them a smile. That usually breaks the ice to where they start talking to me and I feel more comfortable. Give it a try... what do you have to lose??? Good luck!
2006-10-16 07:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by jasam4ever08 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make an effort to smile more. You're probably putting off the impression that you're in a bad mood or unapproachable. I get that too. I have dark eye brows and whenever I am not smiling I look like a b i t c h. So, I make a habit of smiling a lot. Everyone seems to think I'm pretty pleasant.
2006-10-16 07:26:41 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Voice chats don't involve contact in person. You can open up more.
Real life, people will judge us on looks and how we act. We have to constantly be on guard with some people.
Start smiling. It will make you feel much better about yourself.
2006-10-16 07:32:47 · answer #4 · answered by kitt_kattkitt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to have a text book self image problem. You're cool with your brain and concept of self, but you look in the mirror and convince yourself that no-one will like the way you look.
So you become self-defensive
2006-10-16 07:26:31 · answer #5 · answered by phillytocalifornia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must learn to smile this will automatically make you appear approachable and fun person to be with
2006-10-16 07:28:39 · answer #6 · answered by D D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. Better alone than badly accompanied. Alone ain't bad compared to desperate. Also: If silence is golden, most people are bankrupt.
2006-10-16 07:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by vanamont7 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't talk to people you are not very friendly
If that's just in person, then you're not very friendly in person.
2006-10-16 07:25:35 · answer #8 · answered by Staceyflourpond 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey you are just like me......everybody thinks i am quiet and don't like to talk that much.....but once you get to know me i wont stop talking
2006-10-16 07:29:26 · answer #9 · answered by The Great! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋