My husband start emailing his brohter's wife, he said it was for help for me.This was done behind my back. To make a long story short, he ended up having sex with her. I need to know if I should talk to my brother in-law about all this? My husband tell's me that he has no intrest in her, that he was hurting over me and it just happened. Our sex life was bad at the time and I can understand why it happened. I had been on depression meds. I know he wasn't getting sex, but my life has been turned up-side down over this. It's really hard at family get-togethers. He's brother thinks its all about the emails. What should I do???
2006-10-16 07:21:44 · 18 answers · asked by twosmartcookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The first thing I noticed about your 'question' was your extreme permissiveness regarding your husband's actions. It was never appropriate for him to be discussing your condition with her to begin with, I think this was an excuse for him to open that door. I strongly suggest you seek marriage counseling as a condition of remaining in your marriage. Your medication and depression are all the more reason he should have stood by you, that is what marriage is about. As far as your brother-in-law, you need to speak to your sister-in-law and encourage her to tell him. If she refuses please let her know that you will need to tell him if she won't. This is not about spite, this is about the fact that he is living in a marriage that is a lie and that is unfair to him. Your husband also needs to avoid all further contact with her that is not in a family setting. I'm truly sorry for your situation but please see it for what it is and get help.
2006-10-16 08:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What kind of a sister-in-law would have sex with her husband's brother???
Don't talk to your brother-in-law about this....that would be cruel.
Obviously his marriage is in trouble too - so they have to work it out or separate...but it's not up to you to decide which way it will go for them.
Stop going to family get-togethers and let your husband tell them why you're not there anymore. Or better yet - get out of the family !!
2006-10-16 07:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about your brother-in-law and start divorce proceedings against your husband IMMEDIATELY! Move out right away and get started on your new life without the cheating jerk, who not only disgraced YOUR marriage and thereby totally betrayed and direspected you but also did the SAME THING to his own brother! Your husband is a total scumbag; what more is there to say!
2006-10-16 07:33:33 · answer #3 · answered by backinbowl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I think you should tell him he needs to know weather he gets mad at your or not he will be grateful that he knows and as for your husband Depression meds or not there was nothing that justifies him cheating on you and with your brothers wife so I would take a step back from worrying about him and deal with it yourself
2006-10-16 07:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by Christine R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either YOU tell your brother-in-law or your husband does. There's NO WAY I would let my husband do that to his own brother. You also need to evaluate your own marriage and make sure there's not a deeper reason for him CHEATING ON YOU. Your husband should have remained committed to you in ALL situations.
2006-10-16 07:30:41 · answer #5 · answered by Please use other door 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. It is not your responsibility nor your right to interfere. See a doctor about your own depression. Your in-laws have enough problems to work through w/o your involvement. You took a first right step by asking. Now take the second and don't talk.
2006-10-16 16:07:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not need to understand why it happened-he had no right for any reason to cheat-he would have done it meds or no meds-he was just lucky they are there to blame it on...he will do it again and yes your brother in law should be made aware-his wife is a loser and his brother a total dick.
2006-10-16 07:34:04 · answer #7 · answered by Jep 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did not you sense accountable because your sister is blood... you've probable seen some adult males flow out and in of her life... Now you ought to bear in mind once you tell her she might want to get mad at you or will she believe you? imagine of what you would possibly want to need on your sisters shoes. bear in mind this may both take a huge toll on her... yet in case you sense she needs to carry close then tell her. bear in mind she did a similar element many years in the past... bear in mind 2 wrongs do no longer make a accurate... imagine about it and be conscious the way you sense day after today... sit down and communicate over consisting of her and probably tell her you and your husband opt to communicate and ensure YOURSEVLES out because they are hurting one yet another with both their movements and not in any respect relizing it...
2016-12-04 21:42:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should tell your brother in law he has a right to know , weather or not he'll believe you is another story. Also you shouldn't stay with your cheating husband
2006-10-16 07:31:04 · answer #9 · answered by wildone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should talk to your sister in law first. This is a real messy situation. Yes it was wrong, and your brother in law has a right to know, but are you telling him out of spite? What will you gain from telling him about this escapade?
2006-10-16 07:26:08 · answer #10 · answered by pooh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋