Im in an abusive relationship (not physical) if i left my husband will my 2 daughters hate me later in life?

Answer 1

They probably won't. Even if they do, if will be until they understand why you did what you did. My mom left my father when my brother and I were children. It wasn't easy for her or for us. She had a hard time with us and we had a hard time with her, since she's quite a wild one herself. Almost 30 years have passed and I can tell you, I'm really proud of my mother and of the choices she made. She continues to lead me by example. We disagree often, but we are still a tight knit little family group. One thing I would recommend you is to always keep the lines of honest, real communication open with your daughters. Whatever happens, talk about it, no matter how painful it is.

You can do it. I'll be thinking about you. Good luck.

Answer 2

Initially they may be extremely angry with you. Eventually they will hopefully realize that it was the best thing you could do. You need to leave or your daughters will end up in the same kind of relationship. That is how the cycle of abuse continues. Emotional abuse is just as if not more damaging than physical abuse. Physical wounds heal but emotional ones linger on and on. I left my husband about a year ago. My daughter and him were very close, and she hated me for awhile. I am careful not to say bad things aobut her dad but she is starting to realize what a jerk he really is. She also sees how much happier I am now which she likes. We are growing closer everyday. I am hoping she has some type of relationship with her dad because I think it is important for a child to have both parents in their life. He may not be emotionally abusive with his children. Make sure they know that you will love them even if they don't love you at the moment. Deep down your kids probably already know that things between you and your husband are not good and by leaving him you will help them greatly in the long run. Good luck

Answer 3

I have 2 boys and I left my husband and they realize that they have a better life now, but at first everything that goes wrong with there dad is my fault, and manly that's because I am the parent that is here, I am the parent that is closets to them so yes they blamed me and for a little while they hated me.

Now they are starting to see what I left and every time they come back from their dads they seem more appreciative of me. They may hate you for a little while they may even blame you, but they will see.

Your best bet is to have therapy set up immediately, as I waited a year after we separated to see one and it was pretty rough going for that first year and knowing what I know now I should have had one sooner. It will help you so much and it will help your daughters too more then you can imagine.

Answer 4

Have you ever talked with your husband about how he makes you feel? some men just don't realize that the things they say or do hurt. If you still love him and want the marrige to work try seeing a counselor. If the abuse just started then maybe he is going through a midlife crissis. Your children may not understand now but later in life they will. You don't want them to be in a relationship were they feel be littled or worthless.If you know that your children love you then you will have nothing to worry about just talk with them.

Answer 5

I dont think that your daughter would hate you. Especially if you have a great bond with them they will understand your reasoning. Not only are you protecting yourself you are also setting a good example for your girls that know matter how much you love a man that enough is enough and there is something you can do about it. Its hard on kids when breaks split up but they dont understand it like us adults so sure make sure to dont turn them against him. I hope you get out and live a happier life good luck.

Answer 6

No they won't. if u left it will save them years of counselling later on. Kids are very smart today;they know when u r unhappy and when u r being mentally abused and hopefully not sexually abused! To raise children properly we have to also think of #1.If we are unhappy , more then anything the children sense it and are unhappy.Remember we are there roll models, so if u live it they will think thats the only way to live. Be happy be strong , don't allow anyone to take u for granted or put you through challenging situations.

Answer 7

Leave an abusive relationship. His abuse will trickle down to your 2 daughters. Save yourself and your girls. It's the best thing you can do for them. Remember, your girls will become women. What would you say to them if they get themselves in an abusive relationship as well? They will throw it at your face, you did and so why should they get out of it as well. Be a good example to them. They will love you for it.

Answer 8

No--NO, they won't. Well, I can't answer for sure since I don't know you or your daughters, but I can tell you that my father emotionally abused both my mother and I for years, and I always kind of resented her for NOT leaving him. Even if he's not abusing your kids yet (in whatever way he is abusing you), he'll most likely start doing it eventually. Even if he doesn't, his abuse of you will still have an affect on them. I'm almost positive they won't hate you, and when they're older, they'll understand even better. Please get help as soon as possible. Good luck.

Answer 9

yes they probably will hate you if they dont understand

if things will get better for you, you are happier away from your husband you will be a better mother

your children will understand if you explain it to them. think about whats best for you and your children. Being in a household where their mother is abused is not exactly a healthy environment for them either. what sort of an example do you want them to see on how to treat others?

Answer 10

Just because you get away from the husband doesn't mean you can't get visitation rights for the kids. Kids are much smarter than we know talk to them you might be surprised. Good luck and get out before it turns physical.