my ex-wife had an affair and i caught her. so we divorced and now she has moved someone in to replace me and won't let me see my kids. i have missed 2 of their birthdays ands all the time in between. i dont know where she is or how to get ahold of her
2006-10-16 07:16:23 · 8 answers · asked by inshape261979 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
get a lawyer ....good luck and always try to find your kids and when you do, never speak bad about their mom....i went through it growing up and after time, i realized who the real parent was.... no one can ever replace you.... file that you want to pay child support...I KNOW THAT SOUNDS CRAZY but, when she hears money calling...she will answer and its a small price to pay to have your kids back....
2006-10-16 07:20:56 · answer #1 · answered by Carmen 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To answer your initial question, people tend to take separation, etc out on the children because they aren't mature enough to differentiate the two. They can see that separation between the parents has NOTHING to do with the children and the kids should not be used as a way to punish the other just because it's hitting them where it hurts the most.
Is there a way you can contact a lawyer and have them help you track this woman down and get access to your children? I would bring someone else into this, fight like hell to get to her and get your children somehow. They don't deserve what she's doing, and neither do you.
I'm not much help, so hopefully the people before me and after me can offer you the advice you need. Good luck and I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
2006-10-16 07:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to find her which you could do a zabasearch if she has set up house keeping somewhere else if not you may have to find a PI. Also go to court and tell them the situation. I know the courts want to have the family intact for the kids sake. I do know that even after all that it still can be hard, but if you stay persistant and believe that you will be with your kids it can happen
2006-10-16 07:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by lpdecca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your question made the situation sound much worse than it is (thank God your children are not being physically harmed). Granted, this is not a good situation for you or your kids. You will have to file for parental visitation rights. If you don't, then your kids will really think you did abandon them.
2006-10-16 07:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by Signilda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she have a ss card and does she work if so go to the family court in your city and let them take it from there, come armed with divorce papers and anything that can help with her search, what about relatives in-laws or friends she can be found so hang in there for the kids they need you too
2006-10-16 07:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by sexyswells42 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I think you should see a lawyer about this affair-- that's very aweful to do to a parent. I don't know how you do it. Good luck, I'm praying for you.
2006-10-16 07:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by audrey'sheretohelp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer. You have rights to your children. Sometimes people don't realize they are hurting their children, but when they grow up they will resent her for keeping them from you.
2006-10-16 07:20:55 · answer #7 · answered by gab_b_i 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are selfish and only care about themselves. It will go full circle someday.
2006-10-16 07:19:03 · answer #8 · answered by lynddd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋