he has told me he is seen in someone but always ends up telling me he only says that to get me 2 shut up in one or more occasions he has been spotted around this girl i have a big, big feeling he is been with he claims no but doesnt take the time 2 make me feel that what he is saying is true & that i shouldnt think like that, we have 2 girls 2gether but i left the house about 2 mon ago! out of that time i think he only called maybe 1 week straight and i feel he only called a week straight cuz i wouldnt give in on been intimate with him!!i dont want to begg him anymore but find my self calling him all the time he is not responsible with the girls and the few times he has seen them he cant think of a place to take them or what to do with them to have a good time. i know its over but how do i move on if still hurts this much, i keep just talking to him so he could hurt me more & more with his words 1day is yes things will get better the next is i dont want 2 have nothing 2 do w/u!
2006-10-16 06:52:03 · 7 answers · asked by why 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Apparently there's a self esteem issue here. He has already shown you that he doesn't want to be with you or the kids. It is unfortunate but you are better off. Ask your self this question, what is it that he is doing for you & the girls? What kind of examples are you setting up for your daughters? You need to be their role model & teach them how to love themselves. What you don't realize is you are doing more damage to your kids. I m not saying it's not hard, but honey, you need to take a look at yourself right now. Forget about him. I ran out of my house 2 times with my kids, before i actually left my husband. When i look into my kids's eyes, i don't want them to go through these times & think it's OK. I was scared at first, & asked my self how i was going to do it, after all he was a great provider for the kids, i asked my self maybe he is the best i could do, what if i end up by my self. But that didn't stop me. It's been 1 1/2 year now, & he is still trying. But with you, it doesn't seem like that at all. So what do you have to lose, the bumb that HE IS!!!!!!! The kids will be fine, you just have to get to that place that you are seeking. There is light at the end of the tunnel, i have found it & so will you. You may not think so now, but it will come. Keep your head up. He is only a man. So when you look at yourself in the mirror, ask yourself these questions, do i love myself? do i deserve to be happy? and most look at your kids & see how much pain they are in.
Know what you are worth & set your boundaries & check list. Don't settle for anything that you are not happy about.
Good luck & take care
2006-10-16 07:17:18 · answer #1 · answered by famcreole 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Emotions are strong and influencing on the psyche. Love is hurtful in so many ways. We need to get a grip on life, have respect for ourselves and that means letting go of the baggage that don't care for us. It's a hard road to travel, but realistically how else will you ever get your self respect back if you continue to let him do this. Take heed to the fact that you go deeper into an abyss that could be so hurtful and you may never get out. Move now for the children's sake and give them a life to learn from and not carry over into their lives.That is where your love should lie.
Forget the piece of turd..........
2006-10-16 14:00:31 · answer #2 · answered by silhouette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, it would be great if you could write like a mature person, rather then an 8 year old who just discovered a computer. But, on the other hand, the guy sounds like an ***. If he only comes around when he's feeling lonely, then drop him. If he cant be there when you need him, then what good is he?
2006-10-16 14:01:13 · answer #3 · answered by April Lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing stop allowing yourself to continue playing his games cause that's just what he's doing to you. Besides he's not much of a man by his actions and certainly sounds like a loser as a father as well. So get on with your life and let him play his games with someone else. And don't forget to get some child support considering he helped with bringing those two girls into this world. good luck to you ;o)
2006-10-16 14:19:43 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL YOU HAVE GOT TO GET IT TOGETHER!!!! I'M SO SORRY BUT THAT IS NOT A MAN BY ANY MEAN'S. I HAVE BEEN MARRIED TWICE AS YOU CAN TELL THE FIRST ONE DIDN'T WORK OUT,HE WAS AN ASSHOLE WHO THOUGHT HE RULED THE WORLD.I GOT WAY FROM HIM AND YES I, THIUGHT I WAS GONNA DIE WITHOUT HIS SORRY ***. WELL THANK GOD I DID BECAUSE I MET A GREAT GUY AND WE HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 23 PRETTY GOOD YEAR'S NOW & SIX KID'S TO BOOT.
2006-10-16 14:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by LISA C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF HIM!!.........AND MAYBE.........GET YOU SOME SELF ESTEEM IN THE MEANTIME SO YOU DONT FIND ANOTHER ONE JUST LIKE HIM.........TO KEEP YOU FROM BEING "ALONE"
2006-10-16 13:56:44 · answer #6 · answered by purefire41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then why bother anymore? it sounds like you are just miserable. and a guy tell me that one time he would be history. f.... him and his verbal abuse!
2006-10-16 13:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋