why are people rude on here?

Question

when you ask a question and people are nasty or say they are glad you did something and hope you get punished for it.

Or they are really patronising - there isnt any need for it and frankly if that is how you are going to be rather than helpful i dont want to hear from you

Answer 1

Believe it or not, there have been major studies attempting to find what people's motivations for participating in online ventures such as this one. And besically it boils down to four overarching goals:

ACHIEVEMENT. Some people just want to accomplish stuff. Around here, these are the folks that work hard to get their next level, raise their best answer percentage, or just accumulate the most points. Making goals and reaching them is very satisfying to them.

SOCIALIZATION. Many people answer questions here primarily because there is a kind of interaction with the many other people who do so as well. If you hang out in one area, you can even become familiar with a peer group of other people who are there too. These folks sometimes just enjoy chatting and giving answers, or sometimes they're here because it makes them feel good to help other people out. Were not all these questions and answers coming from real people, they'd lose interest fast.

IMMERSION. To this group of people, participation is a way of achieving an altered state of consciousness. They can spend time here doing things they might never do in their real lives, perhaps exploring and finding answers to questions they would never ask without the anonymity of the Internet, or perhaps just taking on a different persona and acting like a scholar, religious fanatic, or whatever else suits them. For some of these people, it is just a form of escapism - while they're here answering questions they don't have to think about other things in the real world that bother them.

AGGRESSION. This last group of people (unfortunately) simply gain enjoyment from lessening that of others. While this might be considered a 'social' motivation by some, it is probably more appropriately labelled an 'anti-social' one. These people are ONLY here to insult, instigate, and otherwise interfere with normal procedures, and would lose interest rapidly if nobody cared or if they thought there was nobody listening (justt like the social types).

So, in short, some people are nasty because it gives them great pleasure to be so. And it is unfortunately very difficult to weed them out, much less get them some kind of counseling which would turn them into happier, more productive people. The best thing to do is just develop a thick skin - that's how rhinos defend themselves from gnats. Enjoy!

Answer 2

Because some people have no manners, and because they can. Ignore the rude/insensitive/nasty or patronising ones, and take what you need from the rest. There ARE lots of nice people out there, you just have to look hard sometimes.

Answer 3

I totally agree with and can't say it any better than Fermi of Borg above so I won't try. This guy seems to be a polymath or Renaissance man, and I intend that as a compliment without any negative connotation whatsoever. Trust what he says. He's not only right most, if not all, of the time but well-intentioned. What more could you ask for?

Answer 4

I hate to say it, but if you are going to post a question on line to whom ANYONE can respond, you are going to get a lot of immature people that are willing to say anything just because they think it is funny and want to make themselves laugh. You have everyone from kids who can type to desparate people in midlife crisis. Also, some people have different standards for being polite. You go from the east coast to the west coast, it feels a lot nicer on this side of the US.

I would suggest that if you are going to keep using something like this as a tool, that you develop a thick skin and be prepared for that number of people that are going to simply answer because they can. Take it with a grain of salt and look for the answers that sound closer to the truth. I hope you aren't going to lump everyone into this group that has you so irritated.

Answer 5

I'm so glad somebody else finds some remarks rude. I frequently find some of the questions even suggestive and sexual. It's not what we want and I have just complained to BT about it. Don't know if they will do anything but they do say that they monitor it on a regular basis. I wonder tho sometimes.

Answer 6

Mike Hunt. I used to work for a company where one of the sales reps came in almost wetting himself with laughter. He had been to see a client, a Mr M Hunt but he didn't know what his first name was. The receptionist at the office greeted our rep and then started to try to track down Mr Hunt. It was only when she called to a colleague "has anyone seen Mike Hunt?" that our rep lost it completely!

Answer 7

A question that has been asked so many times!! People can put what they like, whether it offends you or not, but YOU have the choice to reward those that present you with the answer you need and ignore the ignorants!!

Answer 8

They are rude because they can be. Their called faceless. In my business we used to call things that kids did faceless crimes because they new they could get away with it. The same applies here. 99% of these wacko's do it to make themselves feel they have accomplished something. Don't take it personally. This is probably the only thing in their little lives. If your truly looking for an answer to something don't let the little people stop you.

Answer 9

no there isn't any need for it but you will get it whatever the question is. there are some immature people out there and maybe you have a different opinion on their answer? at the end of the day everyone is on here to get points and will type anything to get it. just ignore it and don't stress!!

Answer 10

I agree I look as this as a great form of research with the help of others who may have expierenced what I need to know How sad it has to be some who feel the need to be rude instead of helpful. The sayng is "If you don't have something nice to say then say nothing at all ".