My friends husband died the weekend and i can't think of anything to put in a sympathy card. Has anyone any ideas of little ditties?
2006-10-16 06:29:31 · 27 answers · asked by mumsie4 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Don't send a little ditty. Just say "deepest condolences," and offer to help in any way she needs. Sending cookies or other kinds of food is also good.
2006-10-16 06:32:43 · answer #1 · answered by rollo_tomassi423 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Little ditties"!?
Say what's in your heart.
And try and remember that NOT talking about the deceased is like an elephant in the room. Don't NOT bring him up because you think she's going to cry or be upset - that's just wrong.
Remembering someone out loud days, weeks, months from now is what's important.
2006-10-16 06:37:48 · answer #2 · answered by iguana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The words that you put in the card are less important than your getting alongside your friend and just being there.
"Thinking of you....and here for you' may be enough in the card.
But if you say that, make sure that you ARE going to be there.
(And noit just for the first few days....support yoiur friend especially when Christams comes, and Birthday, and Anniversary.......and there is no-one for her to send that special card to. Your lovingh support then is worth a million words in a card now)
2006-10-16 06:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything you put in a card is trite - no matter how brilliant any of us complete strangers are.
I would send the card with a simple, "sorry for your loss," but call your friend up and actually talk to her. She could probably use a friend right now.
2006-10-16 06:33:44 · answer #4 · answered by Ciaoenrico 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't send a bloody card, go and give her a hug, when my wife died I received hundreds of cards, and felt rather insulted, i know people send them with the best intentions, but they are not something you ever want to read
2006-10-16 06:33:49 · answer #5 · answered by Grit Savage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you are there for her and that if she needs anything, DAY or NIGHT, she can call you. (you need to mean that by the way)
tell her that he was a great man and that his is gone but not forgotten and that his memories are all around us.
remind her of a time that something funny happened to both of you.
also, GO over to her house, MAKE her somethign to eat,cause she probably won't eat anything that 'he ' had the day he died.
there is a acceptable period of mourning, and just be there with her and for her for the next 6 months.
2006-10-16 06:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget ditties. KISS -- Keep It Simple Stupid.
"I'm so very sorry for your loss. If there is anything that you need, please let me know."
Then be sure to visit your good friend often during the first year, to help her grieve and learn to live her life.
2006-10-16 06:31:52 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not inevitably could desire to handle absolutely everyone on your commencing. i could handle the envelope to the kin of the deceased. attempt something to the end results of "We have been so sorry to pay attention of your loss, you're in our innovations and prayers" possibly. i comprehend it quite is confusing to sound trustworthy without seeming corny. no count what you assert nevertheless it quite is the reality which you cared adequate to deliver the cardboard and words of sympathy.
2016-11-23 14:46:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say "I'm sorry" When my mom died, I hated it when people said they were sorry...cause they never knew what I was going through. Just tell your friend that you'll be there for her no matter what, and not to be afraid to talk to you.
2006-10-16 06:33:13 · answer #9 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words can never express how much we feel your loss. Know that we are here for you and will see you through these dark times.
2006-10-16 06:49:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋