Am I wrong for not wanting all these girls to call my husband (soon to be ex)? We were going to try and work things out but I just don't trust him. Is it insecurities or instincts? What would you do if your husband always had girls calling him? He says that they are just friends. Some are 20 years old even. 12 year difference in age.
2006-10-16 06:18:50 · 31 answers · asked by Just Because 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
GIRL BOO...STOP WITH THE GAMES...you are his wife and he is acting a fool...run Forest, RUNNNNN...and keep your head up so you won't fall...your husband is still tryin to see if the grass is greener on the other side...let him go be miserable and you just sit still in the rough honey, like a diamond...a real man will come right along and place you upon your pedestal...
you are already miserable and you have papers on him...unless you are a geenie, move on
2006-10-16 06:23:45 · answer #1 · answered by meiadiesel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe in listening to those inner voices that say " there's something wrong with this picture." And even if by some stretch there is nothing going on but friendship...I think it is disrespectful of him as a husband to continue taking these calls without setting some boundaries. I would be very upset. I bet if the situation were reversed he wouldn't be too understanding either. Always amazing how different it is when the shoe is on the other foot. Good luck to you! Hope you find happiness...search from within and you will find it! You deserve better than that.
2006-10-16 13:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look,,, it seems that your "soon to be" ex, who you don't trust is also "aware" of his new coming status and like any good boy scout he is getting ready, what are you doing beside keeping a chart on his life. I think if I were you I'd be wondering why MY phone isn't ringing off the hook. Concentrate on what YOU are going to do, why waste time playing "gum-shoe" with him?
2006-10-16 14:45:28 · answer #3 · answered by uwantfacts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does not sound like he has waisted any time getting on with his life. If he really wanted to work things out then why are all thesse girls calling him sounds like he is stringing women along including you. Make the ex permanant you dont need the drama and sounds like he is a drama king . let him go you dont need it or him. Find someone who will treat you with respect and dignity and love you ,truly love you.good luck and god bless.
2006-10-16 13:25:40 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds real fishy to me too. I think if you have talked to him about this in the past, and I get the impression you have, and you still feel he's doing things to bring these insecurities to you, then I think, unless you are both willing to go for counseling, that you need to go your separate ways.
If he really loves you and is devoted to you, he probably *could* have female friends, BUT, I think (true) freinds of the opposite sex have to be treated differently than just regular friends, and the line that 'they're just friends' just doesn't wash.
Good luck to you.....I'm sorry you have to go thru this.
2006-10-16 13:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You confused me when you said "husband (soon to be ex), but then said you were trying to work things out. If you are uncomfortable about these relationships, which I think you are more than justified to be, and have told him, then if he continues then he should probably be your ex instead of your current.
2006-10-16 13:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you two should just live separately until your divorce is finalized. If your husband refuses to give up those phone calls, it's better that he's not around to rub it in your face.
2006-10-16 13:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your (soon to be ex) could have moved on, so don't let it get to you. I'm sure there's a reason why he's getting ready to be an ex to you. So move on, get yourself out there and enjoy life.
2006-10-16 13:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a "soon to be ex", what does that matter who's calling him? Sounds like you're doing the right thing by dumping the player, I would have done the same. "Just friends"?? My a**.
2006-10-16 13:20:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Soon to be Ex??? Well carry on and don't change your plans...He's scum and doesn't really want to work things out or he'd tell his so-called friends not to call
Sounds like he needs someone to do his dirty laundry and cook his meals.
2006-10-16 14:17:08 · answer #10 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋