My bf (in the beginning) was always kissing me, we had sex all the time (twice a day smtimes) and slowly his interest has peetered (pardon the pun) off to the extent of null & void.I bring it up occasionally and we'll talk, but it always seems to be something. His extra pounds, he's tired, sick...I know he loves me tremendously (that's NOT the issue).He's NOT having an affair (I'd wager my first born on that truth).If he's depressed, but not to the point of sleeping all day and not curled up in a ball in the corner(you've heard of walking pneumonia, right?) I guess I need encouragment to hang in there. I have already walked away from my last two marriages when in hinds-sight, I could've stuck it out. I want to see the rewards for standing by someone thru their troubles without my own needs causing me to run into the arms of someone else who won't meet them all either. I've never had a bf or hubby who did not think I was all that & a bag of chips!This is new for me.
2006-10-16 06:09:04 · 18 answers · asked by Barbie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if you want to know what it is like to stick by someone then do it if he loves you why leave just because you are going through this patch you try coming on to him get away without the kids make hiim feel young again like it was in the beginning you wont get anything by moaning about it and bringing it up might fuel his insecurities. you do the chasing for once it will do you good.
2006-10-16 06:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by JHON H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how funny you mention that. I'm having the same problem with my boyfriend. In my situation I am the one who is slowly drifting away. How long have you been in a relationship with your boyfriend?
I have been with mine for 5 years. It strange how I feel. I know I love him. But now I simply don't want to have sex with him as often. I just don't get that same excitement as I did when we first started dating. I think relationships change during time. He is probably comfortable now. He know he loves you and you love him. I have been advised to take couples therapy. Maybe, that will work for you.
2006-10-16 06:14:38 · answer #2 · answered by Yessenia A. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a normal and natural part of a healthy, adult relationship.
That being said, if you DON'T have a sexual component to your relationship, then you have to determine if the PROBLEM is medical (physical or mental) or emotional. If it's medical, then get help! If it's emotional, the two of you need to see a relationship counselor. Otherwise you'll end up leaving later than sooner. And you'll regret hanging around.
2006-10-16 06:12:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your bf's low self esteem bring you down. He obvioulsy is a lil depressed and in need of some booty. Talk to him again and tell him how important it is to you. To be honest though, the kissing and sex everyday kind of wears away after awhile. I don't think it should, but then again that's why I'm still searching for my soulmate.
2006-10-16 06:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by DBL L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your hubby might be suffering from low self esteem, especially if you're all that and he's thinks he's not. Try building him up constantly. No compliment is too small. Tell him he's handsome and you love him all the time and if he is funny, tell him so. If he's smart speak up and let him know you think so. Once he starts seeing himself through your eyes than he might feel like getting it on.
2006-10-16 06:16:15 · answer #5 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your hubby to take a day or two off of work and to sleep and do not much of anything. It sounds like he may just be tired.
2006-10-16 06:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens alot in relationships. It is usually because you are spending too much time around each other. Maybe you should take a break. Absense makes the heart grow fonder.
2006-10-16 06:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by johnlb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah just hang in there. You sound like you really love him and it will be worth it. YOu have to support him in what he is going through. That is what it is all about. Just remember that the good times will always come back around.
2006-10-16 06:18:13 · answer #8 · answered by Kamunyak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to get a pet. I heard it really helps with the lonelyness. Most time you will have to look outside the box to see what it is on the inside.
2006-10-16 06:15:16 · answer #9 · answered by Chris T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a poem!
but yeah I don't like to keep in touch with my ex's and therefore I would not kiss them or whatever anymore period.
I think that's what you should keep in mind
there's no such thing as loving your or kissing your ex when there's a new and more better man in your life!
2006-10-17 10:03:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋