my husband is talking with his ex girlfriend say he dont know if he want to stay in the marrage with me but that he love me i just need a frend to talk to
2006-10-16 06:03:22 · 25 answers · asked by mandyp66 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Remind him that he is in the marriage and he needs to knock that sh*t OFF! Keep the phone records you will need them when you take him for everything. Make clear to him that this communcication with another woman is not acceptable. Any communication you find out about is a deal breaker. Lock him out and throw his crap in the front yard. Tell him to Grow up! You need a man not a boy.
2006-10-16 06:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by kane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes stringing you along and he doesnt know what he wants. I dont think that its a good idea for anyone to still have a relationship with their ex's and I couldnt put up with that. He is in this big ball of confusion in my opinion I think that he has started to refind feelings for his ex and yet he has feelings for you thats why he is so contridicting. I dont know what your situation is but as far as what your saying thats what it sounds like to me. Sometimes when you talk to ex's you think well maybe things werent that bad between us and I dont know how much time has passed but maybe they just dont remember everything as cleary.
I dont think that he will respond to counseling but then again I dont know your situation. Its worth giving it a shot though and if he rejects the idea. Completely ignore him and he may respond to that a little better. Be short with him thats what I do when I feel like a relationship just isnt working and its a way to sort of transition myself before the storm when I actually have the guts to leave him its my waying of pulling my feelings away from him. Good luck to you and I hope that he get over this trial and tribulation so that you can be happy.
2006-10-16 06:17:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like his past relationship with his ex didn't come to a complete close. ;o( I can tell you must be terribly hurt and confused, only natural but you have got to pick a time when you can both talk about this without any distractions. Try not to get mad as easily as it would be to do but instead to just talk about things. Maybe even suggest you try counseling together. It's not fair to you for him to keep talking with his ex and it certainly won't help the marriage improve. Good luck to you. ;o)
2006-10-16 06:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know........ it is behavior like this that has men disrespecting us women and treating us like we need them so much we will take any of their bull_ _ _ _. If the relationship/marriage isnt important to him then you are wasting your time. There are others you know. and this is not the 1st time for him either he just decided he didn't care if you found out, cause he knew you would take it. If he wanted to stay in the marriage He wouldn't be trying to ruin it with someone else. He just isn't man enough to leave. And he knows you wont make him leave .... So why not. Sister girl Give his butt the Boot. And show him you deserve better than what he is giving you.......
2006-10-16 06:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by peaches 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry! that is so sad. Talk to him about it, see what's goign on. Divorce is never an answer and if he truly loves you he'll know. Make him a dinner wear something cute. Talk to him use old memories. Just see what's going wrong. Prayer is a good answer to, even if you're not into the whole God thing a quick one wont hurt you will it?
2006-10-16 06:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you husband don't know if he would rather be with you or a ex love than he wasted your time completely and he doesn't love you. Get divorced and find someone more worth your time.
2006-10-16 06:07:09 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his a-- to the curb, you don't have time for crap like this or a person this shalow. Surely you are worth more than being degraded by either of them. Move on with your life.
2006-10-16 06:14:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you deserve better than that! That's great that he loves you but what he's doing to you is not fair at all. Have a serious talk with him and let him know how you feel.
2006-10-16 06:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him what makes him wonder if he wants to be in it or not. Don't try to change him or yourself it isn't worth the headache. Ask him to attend marriage counseling with you. If he won't attend with you, start going by yourself and maybe he'll be encouraged to come with you.
2006-10-16 06:08:44 · answer #9 · answered by tk_9702 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you do not approve. If he continues the relationship with her then you have to decide to accept that he does not value your feelings and stay married to him or file for divorce.
2006-10-16 06:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋