we've been dating for 5 months..and we just recently broke up..we remained good friends but this randomGUY is saying i selpt with him, while i was with my ex...now he didnt beliveme n said all this crap..about loving me when it was a lie n bringing me into his life n family...he hasnt found out it was a lie yet..but trust it is and he is already sorry, because i havent been talking to him at all.. he came over my house last night when my father was at work, and said he was going to do somthign stupid n hurtful to himself when he left...so i had him spend the night..when my dad came homehe found him hiding and now im kicked out of my house n i dont know what to say to anyone.i dont have a mom..she lives in FL and we dont talk..the only person i do have is my dad..but he doesntwant me? should i stop talking to my ex altogether.because with him around in total i have made some pretty bad decisions im in my senior year..2nd month n i missed 4days of school, and my father is not happy @all
2006-10-16 06:02:27 · 11 answers · asked by Sami 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Spin control is best when you:
1) open up and tell all, as soon as you can;
2) be honest;
3) apologize, where/when necessary (but not always.)
Why cover up for this shmuck? Tell your dad about the 'hurting himself' game he was playing (it was a game, you know) and get back in with him. Drop this guy, for he isn't worth it. And tell your dad about the random guy - if I were him I would take care of his dumba55 quick style!
2006-10-16 06:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Trixie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you are, but I am sure that you are pretty young. The most important relationship in your life right now is the one you have with your father. You are right, you made some bad decisions lately, but I think your father used some of those bad decisions you made, to jump to the wrong conclusion when he found a strange boy hiding in his house.
I think the shock of that caused him to act foolishly when he kicked you out of the house.
Let him cool off for a day or two, if you can find a safe & secure place to stay. And then go to him & talk.
I highly recommend that you put aside your obvious desire to have him see that he wasn't entirely right about what happened.
Just work toward assuring him that you are going to follow his rules while living in his house, AND DO IT!
Your Dad wants you, but you scared him a bit, & he reacted in an extreme fashion. Nowhe needs to know that he can let you back in without looking like he's going soft on you so you can walk all over him & get your way anytime you want.
The boyfriends in your life are toxic for you. Your life is difficult enough without a mom, & a Dad who obviously cares for you but doesn't know how to help you. So you don't have to bring these guys into your life that have their own complications to burden you with as well. Instead of some additional affection & caring that you should be getting from a boyfriend, it sounds to me like you are just getting additional grief.
Talk to your Dad & tell him that you are ready to try to live under his rules.
I hope that helped.
2006-10-16 06:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about the situation with your Dad. If he was angry enough to kick you out..it seems to me that he really cares about you. Give it a little time and then try to resolve your differences with your Dad. Being older and a man he knows more about men than you do. Trust his judgment. Be courageous and tell him the truth. From your description..you ex doesn't really care about you or he wouldn't have put you in jeopardy by staying at your house. Loving means caring more about the other person than you do yourself. Loose him..he's manipulative! Give your Dad some time to cool off and then be real with him. Your Dad only wants what is best for you. Trust his wisdom. Good luck sweetie...
2006-10-16 06:13:21 · answer #3 · answered by redqueentx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does your ex now this random guy? why hasn't he found out that it was a lie. you need to let him now that what he did or is doing is not right and that you did nothing wrong. have you and your father been close. if you now and fill that you did nothing wrong then when you tell him the truth then he should be fine. now your dad. tell him what had happen what was said and what is not true. your dad will al;ways be there for you no matter what happens.
2006-10-16 06:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by pheobe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The way i see it, family is more important, do something positive with your life. Guys come and go, but your father seems strict but he's all you got and your all he's got thats more important. Don't stress it apolize to him and go back home. As far as the guy goes tell him you need time to think about it if he is patient he will wait. if not than he's not right for you.
2006-10-16 06:10:04 · answer #5 · answered by Ankit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the ex alone and move on with your life. No man is worth your education. Listen to your father he will not lead you in the wrong direction.
2006-10-16 06:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by red1967 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 12:10:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like excess baggage. Anyone who tries to control your behavior by threatening to hurt himself is a total loser. Forget him. Then tell your dad you're sorry and made a mistake.
2006-10-16 06:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad what really happened, and why you had him spend the night. Finish school, without that you don't have anything.
2006-10-16 06:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by gjmite 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah stop talking to him your family is more important.
2006-10-16 06:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋