I mean come on, I have the choice if I want to have sex with someone or not, then i also have the choice to use protection or not (yes, always). I also have the choice of being on some form of birth control.
So why in the heck if I got pregnant for my decisions, should I blame the man? It's not like he mind controlled me into having sex with him, and I obviously didnt want him to "keep it in his pants" if I was having sex with him.
2006-10-16 06:02:24 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Other - Politics & Government
She's trying to say that some women want it both ways. They say it is their choice and their choice only to have a child, but then once they have made the choice they want the man to be responsible for the child. It is actually a good ethical dilemma.
How can one person be held responsible for the decisions of another.
Yes the man had sex with the woman, but she has the ultimate power to decide if she will carry the child.
To make it even more complicated what about when the woman lies to the man and says that she has had her tubes tied or is using some form of birth control?
According to the feminists the man is always responsible. Sounds kind of hypocritical to me
2006-10-16 06:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I guess if you like men then yes they are so charming that you feel you have to have sex with them. But it is both male and females responsibility to support the child. And that is how the law is setup but a little more for one side then the other.. You get to keep the child and the other has to pay you as well. Kinda unfair there. Should be if you have the child it is yours to pay for the other one will have the loss of a child so should not have to pay, being you are already paying with a loss.
Now abortion is a matter that is off sided as well. If a woman aborts and don't have the consent from the male she should be jailed for the rest of her life or put to death. The male wanted the child and the female killed it.
2006-10-16 09:15:46 · answer #2 · answered by Don K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree. Although, I see it slightly different. No, I dont think we should blame men if we get pregnant after sleeping with them because we really needed a good f*$#. However, I also dont think its fair that some men think it should be all on us if the kid comes out wanting a father. And, to prevent this from happening, women need to stop thinking that after getting pregnant after a one night stand, this man is gonna be in a relationship with them or marry them. Give the guy the option to hang around and enjoy being a dad but, dont expect him to give you half of his paycheck and all of his heart after one night and a kid. Be appreciative if the guy just accepts being a dad and if thats once a week or once a month, its more than if you try to pressure him for more....and eventually you'll realize that your child is what should matter overall
2006-10-16 06:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by Carmen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men can be very charming... But yes, it is up to us women to take control of that chemical reaction they cause in us. Yes, we do have the ultimate decision to go all the way with or without birth control. Without protection or birth control it would be a stupid decision but yes, we do have the last word... Remember, we are not victims but only volunteers...
2006-10-16 06:22:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you are just a chick "hooking up" I agree with you 100%. However, if you are in a loving and deep relationship - in my opinion the ONLY time that you should be having sex - then "not getting pregnant" is both of your responsibility.
2006-10-16 06:12:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are so right on this.. Women need to realize we have more control of a lot of situations than we think.. Just some women lack common sense, and think more w/ emotions than w/ logic...
2006-10-16 06:11:30 · answer #6 · answered by qbanita0113 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone should be "blamed", I think both parties should own up to the responsibilities regarding the pregnancy.
2006-10-16 07:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by woniwilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur choice is ur choice. im just glad u dont lay all the blame on the guy. cuz it takes two to make a baby!
2006-10-16 06:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Political preference?
J/K
I think the largest problem is the man not holding up his end of the responsibility.....If you don't want his help..fine..but he should offer, and be willing to do what it takes if needed.
2006-10-16 06:09:24 · answer #9 · answered by Dave 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Damn.....all it takes is charm? I spent all my money on a Vette for nothing? It sure sucks to be me.
2006-10-16 08:14:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋