and you didn't have children together, why would you forgive them?
contract/violated/lies/sex with another/ they said they loved you/ they betray you/ and you take them back to bed? why?
2006-10-16 05:38:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Fear and routine. Those are the two most common factors in a case like this. People are so afraid of being alone in this cruel world of ours that they will stay in a detrimental situation for an extended period of time hoping it will work itself out which it seldom does. Also keep in mind that humans are creatures of habit and do not like to have their routines disrupted, the routine with that person creates a strong bond that is not easy to break. And if all that wasn't enough your mind works against you as well telling you all the negative factors in leaving while not reinforcing you with positive factors. These factors make that old cliche saying "breaking up is hard to do" undeniably true.
2006-10-16 05:48:35 · answer #1 · answered by Blind Sighted 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps because you're a glutton for pain. You probably think you don't deserve any better so you choose to stay with the scum bag who treats you like sh*t. Subconsciously, you feel you deserve the kind of treatment he gives you because of your own low self-worth.
Usually, these feelings stem from childhood. You have the innate desire to change your own past, but have the inability to do so. If your caregiver mistreated you as a child, you instinctively look for people who treat you the same way, as a subconscious means to change the way you were treated as a child. However, it doesn't happen, you're with the same type of person. Somone who betrays you and hurts you over and over again.
You can't change who your with. But you can improve your own life.
2006-10-16 13:58:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER! If you take them back, you're basically saying: a) you don't think you're WORTH being faithful to and honest with and b) that it's okay for the lover to cheat again. (They WILL, statistically, too!).
The only time I MIGHT see this being "alright" is in the VERY early stage of a monogamous relationship, if you haven't set strong boundaries and/or are young and/or inexperienced. This might be excusable and if it happens, maybe you're not ready for monogamy/commitment yet...or ever.
2006-10-16 12:45:10 · answer #3 · answered by SieglindeDieNibelunge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is something that takes years to build and a few minutes to destroy!
A cheater once is a cheater just waiting ti happen again-UNLESS they go thru alot of counciling and are truely willing to change!
BEST BET = RUN AND NEVER LOOK BACK!
2006-10-16 12:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by f4fanactic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would,nt because I would never trust him again
2006-10-16 14:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't.
2006-10-16 13:11:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're stupid and have no self-worth.
2006-10-16 12:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Red 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋