She claims that since I contribute no income and have a gambling problem that the account is off limits to me.
I think she's being a control freak but she keeps bringing up my gambling and drug problems. I say isn't a marriage about sharing? but she throws the whole "spending the rent on booze & prostitutes" incident back in my face, & that was like 8 months ago!
So, is it reasonable for me to steal her credit cards that she keeps in her moms house?
2006-10-16 05:24:12 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What, is she crazy? Of course it isn't right. Don't you share every thing with her? Don't you offer her the last finger of scotch from the bottle? Last toke on the doobie? Look at the money you save on gas by staying at home. Not to mention your consciences concern for the environment. And look what you are doing to support the American Indians with your gambling. Drugs?
Well, you are just doing you part to help the impoverished countries.
Dude, you are tip-top. Don't wuss out with that 8 month BS. It was last week anyway. Be proud. Be srong. Be a man. Oh, and take the credit cards. You earned them
2006-10-16 08:54:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it isn't. Trust is earned, and apparently you have made it necessary to not trust you. It may take years, with counseling, fro you to earn that trust. Demanding to have access now, only shows that you are not working toward that goal. There is nothing wrong with her controlling the finances. My second wife did, even though I contributed over half the income. I didn't need access, or care to have it. She was very good at handling it. Since you don't contribute, and you have a proven history of mishandling money, than no, you do not need access. Just be glad she hasn't booted you out of the house. and I'm a men's and fathers' rights rep. Get into family counseling, and in a couple of years, broach the subject again.
2006-10-16 05:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've had a problem with this type of thing before, sorry but its right for your wife to do that. She's trying to make sure you and her have a house to live in, food to eat, etc. Maybe when you gain her trust again she'll let you have some money and no its not right to steal anyones credit cards unless they know.
2006-10-16 05:31:22 · answer #3 · answered by Cait 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is not being a control freak. But ask yourself this one question. The incident that happened 8 months ago, would it happen now if you had money? Answer honestly.
If it is yes, then she is trying to help you beat your addiction. If the answer is no, then talk to her about helping you open your own bank account. Either way, get a Job so you can control your own money.
2006-10-16 05:29:44 · answer #4 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she has every right to be the responsible one. You need to get a job and contribute to the household income. Then you can talk about spending extra money the way you want to. And no, its a crime to steal her credit cards.
2006-10-16 05:29:03 · answer #5 · answered by joy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This has 2 be a joke or else you are nuts!!!What in the heck are U going 2 share ???? Perhaps it is possible that there are people who think like this question and have access to a computer!!!???
2006-10-16 05:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by hunter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is right for your wife not to share a bank account. I was married and we didn't share the same account. Although, we both worked and we shared the bills.
2006-10-16 05:28:16 · answer #7 · answered by pigs71 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I have several bank accounts.
One for bills - rent, car, gas, water, ... etc
One for house & family - food, clothes, odd stuff ...etc
One for combined savings
One for her own thing
One for my own thing
We both contribute the same amount to the shared bills and shared savings. We can't obligate the other one to spend their savings or complain what they spend it on. After all we are both grown adults.
BTW- WHAT IS WITH "OUR BANK ACCOUNT"? If you don't contribute its hers.
2006-10-16 06:08:45 · answer #8 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is fully in the right, it will prevent all kinds of money trouble , you can get help with your gambling and drug problem s.
2006-10-16 05:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if you have such a problem that it has jeopardized the family and well being. Until your problem under control she has to protect the family and herself from your addiction.
2006-10-16 05:29:09 · answer #10 · answered by TBobb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋