i know im only 16 and am pregnant for a second time but my friends sister is 12 and had a 1 night stand but wont take advice from anyone even tho i know what shes going through have you any advice on how i can help her through this as i feel so sorry for her
2006-10-16 05:21:50 · 23 answers · asked by fiesty_fox 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Oh dear. That's quite a problem.
Unfrtunately your friends sister is going to have to talk to an adult about this. You don't mention whether she's planning on keeping the baby or not. If she is, then she's obviously not going to be able to keep it a secret forever. If she is planning a termination, then i'm afraid she's too young to organise this on her own. No surgeon is going to perform a termination on a 12 year old without parental consent.
She really needs to talk to somebody soon. I know a lot of people are going to answer and say that she's got what she deserves because she had a one night stand, but I personally think that 12 is too young to have a baby, and is certainly too young to deal with the situation alone.
If she can't face talking to her parents about this, then she should go to her local family planing clinc or Brook Advisory Centre. They are fully trained and will be able to explain all of the options to her and the consequence of the different options.
I hope everything works out well for your friend and her sister. She's lucky to have somebody like yourself to support her.
2006-10-16 05:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Gail H 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would really be concerned with a 12 year old being pregnant. She would have other risk factors along with being this age and pregnant. It is really sad that you girls have to go through this but, at the same time did no one talk to you all about birth control? It is hard being a young mother my sister was young when she had her children. She had her first at 15 second at 17 third at 19 and fourth at 20. The sad part is when this happens some kids are worried about having a child hood and are not ready to be full time parents. In our case my mother raised my sisters kids until recently. It took my sister until she was almost 25 years old to be ready to care for her children but, she is only caring for 2 of those children. The other two are older now and they are used to be cared for by my mother. I have also have four kids but, waited until I was married and ready to have a family. In my opinion you should reassure your friend that her little sister will be okay but, talk to your friend and let her know this is what happens when you don't practice safe sex. I really hate to hear stories like this you kids really should be more cautious of not only pregnancy but diseases. And for you being only 16 and pregnant again I hope that you are ready for parenthood and don't put your responsibilities onto others of the care for your children. I am not bashing you for being a teen age mother I just want you to realize that by having children at a young age you are missing out on your childhood. I think you should also set on a mission to help other teenage or preteens know how hard your life is being a teenage parent. I
2006-10-16 06:15:29 · answer #2 · answered by momdadand4kids 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your going to have to tell her the facts, she is still to young to understand the full extent of bringing a child into this world its not like a dolly that you can put in a draw when you have finished playing with it a baby needs constant care and attention & unconditional love, and she must remember it wont stay a baby forever it will have to grow up. And there’s the expense too as she is still only 12 herself she will not be able to clam any money for the baby other than family allowance which is all of around £17.00 per week baby milk is £6.00 and nappies are another £6.00 so she will be left with £5.00 to spend on the baby, she must tell her parents if she is going to keep the baby, it will be a weight off of her mind and then she can prepare for the months and years ahead.
Good luck in helping her to make her decision.
2006-10-16 05:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by carla s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG How rude!! Have a heart. People make mistakes! Geez! But yes being on your second child at 16 I would be seriously worried. I think maybe You and your friend and her sister should have a 'sit down' with her parents. ASAP You and your friend can be there for moral support for her. And at least something can be done as soon as possible.
It isseriously dangerous to the 12 yr old and the baby if she really is pregnant. And I definately think all three of you need counsiling. And I'm not trying to sound mean I just think thereare some underlying issues that need addressing.
2006-10-16 05:30:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well Tell Ur Friend To Tlk To Her Sister and To Tell Her Parents My Sister Knew Before My Parents Did When i Got Preg At 13 N She Told Them But It Was Best For Me Because Then She Can Get Help.x
Btw She Did Not Ask For Your Opnion But Asked For Help So Don't Say Anything If Your Gonna Be Rude
2006-10-16 05:27:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dang!!! 12 yrs old and pregnant, that is way 2 young. She's not old enough 2 get a good paying job 2 support that baby, but whateva she does tell her not 2 get an abortion because like i said 2 one person b4, dont kill that baby because it's not the baby's fault that it's here, it's the 12 yr old and the boy she was having sex with fault. i would rather 4 her to give the baby up 4 adoption than have an abortion
2006-10-16 06:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG no longer yet another 12 y/o wondering they're grown up. How might want to in addition they be wondering about having sex, no longer to point doing it!!!! This youngster bringing her birth control pills will do no longer some thing if she isn't taking them widely used. in case you do not extremely understand her that's a perplexing aspect to do. possibly write her a letter declaring that you heard she will be pregnant and if she needs to communicate then you actually are there. possibly propose that she receives a house finding out kit and that way she will be able to understand for particular. If that would not artwork then tell a instructor, right here in Australia in the journey that they are informed some thing like this, they're obliged to report it to social facilities. She is amazingly underage and that's risky behaviour.
2016-10-16 05:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is so very scary. It sounds like you're being a friend for her and that's important. However, you need to tell her to lean on an adult like a mother, aunt, favorite teacher, someone. Be her support and go with her to tell an adult she's comfortable with. She has a lot to deal with and she's so young that she might not fully comprehend everything that is happening and needs an adult, preferably her mom. You can also step up and be a spokesperson about unplanned pregnancies and go get condoms from a clinic and hand them out to all your friends. Learn about protection and pass on the information. I wish you both luck, or better yet, God's grace!
2006-10-16 05:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by Precious 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is only a child herself and her parents must be told about the pregnancy, for her sake and the unborn child. Perhaps the two sisters could approach their parents together, of course they will be upset and angry but I am sure, they will help and support her and they can help her to decide on the next course of action to take.
2006-10-16 05:38:36 · answer #9 · answered by Grand Diva 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is something you cannot help her on as you have had one child and another on the way and you are only 16!!!! Have you heard of the word NO??? Well, you need to get ehr to go to a doctor and hopefully somone will be able to help her, she is still a baby herself... how sad.
2006-10-16 05:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋