Well I am just learning that my husband has a shady past. He owes a lot of people money that I did not know about and they are calling for it. We have even had our number changed and they still find out and keep calling. Should I try to pay them or let him handle this on his own.
2006-10-16 05:17:56 · 11 answers · asked by babydove1821 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Now I just got something in the mail that he has a second warrant. This time it is for Possession of maj. I am getting way over my head here. Anymore suggestions.
2006-10-16 07:10:07 · update #1
I have been in your shoes before and I paid the debt. Now I'm divorced from him because he cheated on me and got her pregnant. I'm not saying that your husband is going to cheat on you. I'm just saying that I have seen enough court TV to know that people are sorry when they loan anyone money even if it is their spouse. If you both can work it out some how, by him getting a 2nd job. That would be a big help. Maybe you should get some legal advice. What ever you do don't give your money away. You will be sorry. I am. My husband now had an ex wife that had tremendous bills and he didn't pay them off. He said that he paid for all the house and she worked to pay off her debt. He didn't want his credit rating to get mixed with hers. I wish you all the luck in the world.
2006-10-16 05:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one for sure. Have you and your husband sat down and talked this over. Have you asked him why he didn't tell you about his past in the first place.
I feel the best thing to do is work together for the solution to this problem, and make sure he tells you everything. In a marriage it takes two work anything out, and if it is his deed you are also involved even if you don't want to be. So set down with him and make him be honest with you, and the both of you work out away to pay off all of his debt.
It also sounds like you need to work on communication and honesty.
I wish the both of you the very best, and I hope all goes well.
May God Bless
2006-10-16 05:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by petey43 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him handle it. I have been where you are at and even though I know you don't want to hear this and you probably wont listen to me.... It doesn't get any better. If you only take this one thing from me. seperate your finances. Have your own checkings and savings and don't cosign anything with him. TRUST ME
2006-10-16 05:21:48 · answer #3 · answered by shughes2000_2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he hasn't handled it on his own, or they wouldn't be calling. You need to talk to him about this NOW and impress upon him the need to pay.
2006-10-16 05:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by James L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him whats going on maybe he could handle it but to be on the safe side save some money instead
2006-10-16 05:21:56 · answer #5 · answered by smile030498 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you see a bright future with him, then his problems are now your problems. You should help him, but not by yourself. Tell him you both will help to pay them off.
2006-10-16 05:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by lifescircle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should make him handle it. Obviously he didnt want you to even know about it so make him fix it.
2006-10-16 05:20:48 · answer #7 · answered by sweetm12004 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His past = His problem!
I'd stay out of it as much as possible.
2006-10-16 05:20:38 · answer #8 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are his debits.
Be very Leary of Men that keep secrets.
Peace!
2006-10-16 05:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you decide, don't lend him any money
2006-10-16 05:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jenyfer C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋