READ MY PAST QUESTION!!!!!!!!!!..... How can i forget him ...I call him and he completely dosnt care .. i love him so much and i know i should move on but i dont know how... and it kills me .one day im fine one day i need him and i hate it ... he dosnt even think of me ? , how can a person forget everything in less than 1 month?
2006-10-16 05:13:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is so hard to do but start living your life for you. Think about what is in your best interest. Realize that even if he did come back there would be nothing stopping him from doing the same thing again. I understand your pain, I have been down that road myself, only I wasn't smart enough to keep on walking when he left the first time and I let him come back over and over again, it never got better and now he is gone and I am not looking back.
2006-10-16 05:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by k s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he forgot. I think either that he knew he screwed up so bad, that he may actually feel embarrassed to call now, since it is so late now. There are people like that, they rather just hide than to face something, regardless if they love the person or not.
He also could be scared that he asked you for a baby without really thinking of the responsibilities of what that meant emotionally and financially.
The best thing is for you to move on, and how do you do that, well I would just because you have 7yrs of friendship, just go up to him and say "what happened? are you completely out of my life, if so just let me know so I don't sit here waiting for your mood to change..." you have nothing to loose, instead you have all to gain, you will gain the answer you need and you can not only hear him say whatever he will say, but you can read his body language and see his expression. If you know him for 7yrs you will be able to tell if he is being truthful or not. Good Luck!
2006-10-16 12:21:06 · answer #2 · answered by gjmite 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He hasn't forgotten about you, he is just moving on because for him the feelings weren't mutual. I don't believe anyone forgets anyone. I think we leave footprints on people's hearts throughout our lifetime. I know it's hard.. believe me I do.. You need to know.. that you deserve to be with someone that loves you as much as you love them. Just take one day at a time. The saying Time heals is SO true.. You will never forget your love but you will find someone.. You WILL..
2006-10-16 12:24:16 · answer #3 · answered by Shy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It hard but you can do it.... your strong. I think you need to go out and meet people. It might not be the smartest idea to start dating and looking for another relationship,but you do need to put your self out there. Surround yourself with people you love and love you. It will get easier, try to delete everything about him... if you have pictures, get rid of them, if you know his email information loose it.... try not to check up on him or know anything about him, get him out of your life completley so you can forget about him. Believe me right now you think he is the one, but he's not and when you least expect if, your going to find someone who loves you and wants to be with you, and your completley forget about what's his face. Good Luck
2006-10-16 12:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by totallylovableandinlove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel, it has been over a year for me and he started with someone else 2 months later, i still have so many unanswered questions, slowly i started to stop thinking of him as much, but i still think of him all the time and have not been in a realtionship since. it is hard but i think in years i will finally get my head around it. its hard though
2006-10-16 12:17:12 · answer #5 · answered by jesie girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so I read both of your questions and now and I am sincerely sorry to hear about what you are going through. This guy is a complete jerk and no, you should not bother to contact him or even him give him the knowledge that you care about him. He doesn't deserve to know how much you care about him considering what he has put you through. I mean it can be very difficult to get over someone when you don't have the actual knowledge of why he left but looking at his actions towards you, I don't think an answer is even worth the effort at this point. He asks you to have a child and then ups and leaves you while you are pregnant? Then doesnt even have the decency to see how you are doing during a very stressful and painful time of losing both of yours child. He is an asshole and you need to show him that you are strong and don't care about him especially when you have to be around him. I know that can be extremely difficult but it is for the best because he obviously doesn't care about your feelings bc he is too wrapped up within himself. The best way to get over someone is by keeping yourself occupied with things that interest you or that could like taking a class or something and by giving yourself time. I know everyone hates the whole time analogy bc when your hurting badly over someone or something, it seems like time is all that you have but it is the best policy. I speak from experience and have gone through a divorce from a man who was a complete jerk too and who cheated on me. When I kicked him out of my house for cheating, I was enduring a lot of pain from it and it pretty much killed me to see how he didn't even seem to care. I kept trying to contact him and made a complete idiot out of myself by wasting time on someone who didn't have any reverence for my concerns. However, as time passed and I distanced myself from him...I was able to get over it (although it is still hard from time to time and I would be a liar to say that its completely easy now) to the extent that I can say that he was not worth the effort and that I am better off without him. He treated me badly for the majority of the time we were together (together since 16, married at 18 and now divorced at 23) and as time passed I realized that I deserved better then him and that his games and his treatment of me would never change nor make me happy. Don't allow yourself to be subjected to the emotions of the heart during a time when you need to be thinking logically with your head. Would you have wanted this man to be a father to your child? Would you want your child to see his treatment of you as an example of what love his or how a relationship should be? Would you have wanted your child to ever be in relationship like this and be treated as you are being treated now? Once again I am tremendously sorry for your loss and my sympathy goes out to you completely, but why subject yourself to further pain by trying to work things out with this asshole when you can just work through the temporary pain now and move on to someone who will love you and treat you the way that you deserve to be? Good luck to you and please dont make the mistake of going back to someone who will continue to hurt you and never give back all of the love that you have to offer.
2006-10-16 12:37:02 · answer #6 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because it wasn't real for him it was only a game and you need to realize the only person that is getting hurt is you.So drop the phone and ripe the pics up and just pretend he don't effect you and soon enough he wont. Good luck
2006-10-16 12:16:27 · answer #7 · answered by furby_lost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow....where is your self-esteem!
Drop the thoughts of this guy from your little head. The more fuss you make the more it just strokes his ego.
Move on and find someone who will return what you are giving. His loss not yours.
2006-10-16 12:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Pale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me,i know how you feel. i am in this exact same situation, and i'm still not over it. i love him so much. you will never forget him and you will never TRULY be OVER him. you just have to keep living your life, take it one day at a time. i keep telling myself that if its meant to be, it will be.
2006-10-16 12:19:05 · answer #9 · answered by *HEiDi!* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the easiest way to get over some1 is to get into a new relationship it dosent have to b a SERIOUS relationship just for fun.. u could call it REBOUNd.. as for ur feelings toward tht guy well ull never forget em ull always have a special place inside specialy for him :) but as well all know...
time heals all wounds
2006-10-19 09:39:21 · answer #10 · answered by SilentScream 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋