When you lose yourself in someone else, is that when you find yourself?

Answer 1

no. I dont think so.

when i lose myself in someone else, all my thoughts and actions are based on THEM. not on ME. I consider them before myself. I wait for them to be finished so I can spend time with them. I dont know really what I want because I dont consider it first if at all.

I hate it when I lose myself in someone.

Although, when you DO lose yourself in someone, you do learn more about yourself in a relationship. I dont think you FIND yourself, but you can learn how you handle situations you wouldnt find yourself in without a partner. How people make you react.. what you're willing to do for someone.. what limitations you have in a relationship, etc.

I dont know.. it's all a learning experience.. but I think the way to find yourself is to spend time with and by yourself. Not have many if any outside influences of a relationship type. When you are in a relationship, it's not just yourself you are learning about, it's the dynamics being in that couple you are learning. When you are alone, it's only yourself you are going to see the reations and desires of.

does any of that make sense? :)

Answer 2

WOW this is deep..well i feel that if you can loose yourself in someone else then you have already found yourself. On the other hand if you really feel you haven't found yourself you may be learning how to by being with that special someone and if they return the same attention back to you it will surely boost your self esteem and give you confidence in yourself...sometimes we only partially find ourselves and that is what makes life interesting it is not the same as loving our self.

Answer 3

As a young woman a lost myself to love and giving up my ideas, my wants and desires for the sake of others.

You can lose yourself in someone else as long as you are both equals. Then you begin to discover yourself all over again.

Answer 4

Not necessarily. I believe that losing oneself in someone else might cause you to find out traits and qualities that were undiscovered. But losing oneself in another also causes you to lose your "true" self. I was perfectly happy being a wife and partner, perhaps soulmate, but being on my own now, is causing me to rediscover another part of me that I have either never known or haven't seen in quite a while. None of the above is "bad", but we adapt ourselves to our ongoing circumstances, and I think that all that matters is that we are happy in doing that. If we don't mind the changes that happen within ourselves because we are so intertwined with another life, it's all good.

Answer 5

When you lose yourself in someone else... it's more like you realize who you want to be.
In the time i've been married, i sometimes feel like i lose myself in my husband.
Sometimes i find myself doing things to suit him and not for me. There are various reasons for this. But whenever i catch myself forgetting about me or saying things i wouldn't normally say or doing things i wouldn't normally do, i take a step back and re-evaluate.

I learn from it what makes ME happy.
By losing myself, i realize what would make ME happy.
I feel the empty spaces inside me and i find out how to fill them up.

It helps me define who i am, what's an integral part of me.

Sort of like this lifelong learning process.

I'm constantly figuring out who i really am.

Man, i don't think i interpreted your question very well. But i'm trying my best.

When i lose myself in someone else, i feel it. I feel it because i act different, i speak differently, i argue differently, everything's just different. And by doing all those things differently, i get a grasp on who i really am and who i want to be.

Answer 6

No, how are you going to find yourself by getting lost in someone else?

Answer 7

NO!

Finding your self while getting lost in someone else?
Does not that sentence tell you anything?

Its wonderful to feel that much emotion and to experience love but, finding yourself as you put it, is a personsl journey, one that you must experience for the most part on your own.

Answer 8

No actually, not at all.

Even though it may feel like it. You're just happy or are seeing your self through their eyes.

Really finding yourself is when you know yourself WITHOUT the imput, reflection, or opinion of you from others.

Answer 9

If you are lost in someone else this is a clue that you are in the need of a lesson in self-reliance. Your happiness should always come from you and on your own terms. Independence allows others to depend on your strength. In this way you will create more friends that you can count on.

Answer 10

If you lose yourself in someone else, let them find you.