My friend ages ago mentioned a holiday and i jumped at the thort, but knew it would never happen as i have no money.
One day she came round and said her parents are paying for me to go to Florida with them in November for a fortnight.
I still didnt believe this was going to happen (why would someone else's parents pay for me??)
Anyway a long time past and nothing was mentioned and then out the blue, tickets have now been booked really without my knowledge and have booked them under my wrong name - i use a different name to what is on my passport) and i don't know how to tell them that
a) i can't go and
b) i dont really wanna go with her family.
How do i break it to her really gently??
2006-10-16 04:53:28 · 31 answers · asked by Loopy loo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
It seems some of you have the wrong end of the stick with the name part. She knows my name is not what is read on my passport.....i have not changed it by deed poll.
2006-10-17 04:49:59 · update #1
If i may ELECTRICMAYHEM75 there is no untruth, apart from the name on my passport BECAUSE my original dad wont let me change it, coz he's a dick. My friend is fully aware of everything, i just dont know how to tell her!!!!
2006-10-17 04:54:18 · update #2
Too much info...I'm lost!
2006-10-16 04:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by Hacker 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can't break it gently. You've been lying from the begining. Now you owe them money if you don't go. You agreed to let her folks pay for it. Whether you thought it would happen or not is irrelevant. You were being selfish and irresponsible and should either go on the trip or work out some payment plan to pay your friend's parents back for any costs incurred up until now for you. You really should think things through before you do things. If you didn't want to go from the begining you should have said so. Your lying will cause more hurt and pain, for both parties, than if you had just said that you didn't want to go in the first place. GET A JOB AND PAY THEM THE MONEY YOU OWE THEM!!!
2006-10-16 04:58:11 · answer #2 · answered by camus0281 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them that you were excited about the idea in the beginning because that is all it was :an idea that you thought would never happen. Tell them that you appreciate all the trouble they have gone to but it has made you feel uncomfortable. Find out what your options are : can they get the money back, is there a cancellation fee etc. Be honest, be nice and be sincere. Good luck
2006-10-16 06:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hope that this teaches you to not make assumptions about what will and won't happen. You should have said something long ago.
Don't expect this to go well at all, given the circumstances. You'd be naive if you did. If there are practical reasons why you can't go, then emphasize those. Don't talk about not wanting to go with her family if you can, because that will just upset her.
2006-10-16 04:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by James L 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you wanna go? This is a holiday to Florida?!? I say you should go. Who cares what's on the tickets for a start? You and your friend will have so much fun if you just give it a try. This way you and your mate won't fall out over nothing and you might just have a good time.
2006-10-16 04:56:20 · answer #5 · answered by katem1992 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You need to tell her why you can't go. Tell her that you wish you could but you have other engagements and that the ticket was booked without your concent. That you said you would go, but there has been no other mention of it and you didn't think tickets would be booked without talking to you first. This is gonna be hard, but you need to tell her and/or her parents.
2006-10-16 05:00:12 · answer #6 · answered by ConfusedK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you get screwed in the problem...it's all your fault. When she told her parents were buying your ticket...you should have opened your mouth THEN...it's probably too late. I really hope you don't lie either to get out of this. You need to own up and accept what you did was wrong.
2006-10-16 04:56:34 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would never go because i would think that would be weird because when they askeed u u didnt give them the answer and a few months later they bought u a ticket without an answer.i would be really suspisous,like they want to take you away or something.what did your parents say about this.
2006-10-16 04:59:00 · answer #8 · answered by Dareian S 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Bloody hell you must have a good friend, first of all you could start off with the name thing but that could create even more issues if she finds out you haven't even been using your real name.
If I were you I would go and think yourself lucky that someone has even offered that to you.
2006-10-16 04:57:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
first get some professional mental help....maybe even some medication.
second, how good of friend is this that you can't even tell him/her your real name?
third, why are we using fake names? sounds like some illegal activity going on here.
fourth, seek mental help (did i already say that??)
fifth, just make up some lie, like..my dog died, or my grandma died, or i died, you seem to be comfortable with untruths anyway!
2006-10-16 04:57:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Realize there probably isn't a "gentle" way to break the news. Tell her just like you told us. "So much time has passed I didn't think it would happen. I am unable to go now." The sooner the better.
2006-10-16 04:58:37 · answer #11 · answered by curiousgeorge 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋