I know that my new boyfriend will secure me financially, he's went 2 college,he's in the military and he's a real fun person to B around, but I feel intimidated by him at times and I feel happier with my ex despite the reason we broke up. I really feel like my ex has made a change and my heart is still with him. My ex and I was 2gether for 4yrs. and I'm caught up in new love and old love at the same time. My new friend has just told me that he love me for the first time and I told him back but now I don't know who I want to be with or even if I want a new relationship.I just really don't want 2 hurt my new boyfriend's feelings b/c he's had a very rough time with the ladies stomping on his heart and I think that he'll put me in the same category as all the other women he's dated. I know honesty is the best way but I stilll can't grasp the feeling knowing that I hurt him. On top of all that my ex and I live in the same city and my new friend lives about 2 & 1/2 hrs away
2006-10-16 04:48:58 · 11 answers · asked by chachaliscious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The first thing you said was that your current boyfriend could support financially. Well I'm sorry to tell you you are just like the girls that have stomped on him you are using him for his money. You can have fun with friends. So why can't this guy be a friend. If you love this other guy then go to him. But do play with this other guy.
2006-10-16 05:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by roni_lane81981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it sounds like you want to play head games...big no no.Up front honesty is the only way a relationship will work.I have an ex to.He's my ex husband that we share a child between.I love him still but its only because he's my childs father.My present boyfriend is well aware of this.You can't just turn off your emotions for someone you shared a part of your life with.Takes time.Maybe you should go off by yourself and do some soul searching.Good luck to you.
2006-10-16 05:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by unbrokencracker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really shouldn't lead the new guy on. Second of all...who cares if he can support you. Can you not support yourself? Honesty is the important and you need to start with yourself. And stop playing games.
2006-10-16 04:54:32 · answer #3 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are only with your new bf because he can provide for you financially then you are the woman that gives all other women a bad name.
Grow up, take responsibility for yourself, be honest and quit using people.
2006-10-16 04:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you love what your new boyfriend HAS not the guy himself. and there is no way not to hurt his feelings now, you've let it go to far. he'll get hurt either way, howvever, its better to let him go, so he can find someone who knows what they want and that can treat him right, than to be with someone untrue to his heart. and his past relationships are not your problem. and if you truly love you ex as much as you say you do, then thats who you need to be with.
2006-10-16 05:14:41 · answer #5 · answered by *HEiDi!* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for you to say he will secure you financially is a very self centered thing to say. get a job, support your. don't depend on others to get by in life. your just comfortable with the ex, get over it. the new guy sounds like your into stroking it while he works his *** off. stop being lazy. and please, no offspring .
2006-10-16 04:55:59 · answer #6 · answered by brian b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the new boyfriend a favor. Leave. You aren't going to make him happy for the long haul. So why delay the pain?
2006-10-16 05:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by lollipop 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him quickly and then cut him out of your life. He needs to find someone who cares about him more than for another guy.
2006-10-16 04:56:17 · answer #8 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I imagine that you can tell him ,,, from the post card you need to write... since you cant be true to him..... I dont think he will stick around very long either....
good luck
2006-10-16 04:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by eejonesaux 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to chill by yourself for a while to figure how you really feel than decided.
2006-10-16 04:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋