she doesn't wanna move to NJ anymore and i can't move there, she wants a divorce, i wanted to work things out but she doesn't she says its either her way or no way, i can't move, b4 we got married i made it clear she would have to move to NJ. we got married on july 18, i'm sure there is a way out of this marriage.
2006-10-16 04:44:49 · 9 answers · asked by Ankit 4 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
See a marriage counselor. Must be other issues involved or one or both could move. Could set some goals and time lines for future steps to resolve differences. Negotiations are needed, possibly through a older trusted friend who could be objective. What about a clergy who could help? List all the reasons for getting a divorce or staying married. List solutions and the pros and cons of each for each of you. Decide on some compromises each are willing to make. Let time go by during which more thinking and planning occurs. Pray about the problems.
2006-10-16 04:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,there is a way out, if thats the answer for you both. But it then makes the marriage look like a complete waste of time if you cannot work out something like, where you are going to live after agreements were made. Maybe she is doing this as she has met someone else and its an excuse to get a divorce.
2006-10-16 04:56:52 · answer #2 · answered by Latin Techie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing for 2 years and if she hasn't filed for divorce by then - file for absolute divorce in MD stating that you have been separated for 2 years. She could claim abandonment - but you went to NJ and she didn't want to move with you, which is not abandonment. Be prepared to pay some alimony and to have your property equally divided.
2006-10-16 06:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but if she doesn't love you enough to move (having known she would need to before getting married) then she was probably more in love with the idea of getting married.......not of actually marrying you. You need to move on. Realize the mistake and both move on. If you need to stay in NJ then the right girl will come along who wants to be with you, no matter where you live.
2006-10-16 04:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There ARE more fishies in the sea.
You know what---divorce sucks, no matter HOW you look at it. It hurts your feelings, BUT if you can't handle being around the other prson--OR can't move to the same town--I would HAVE to bow out--ever so nicely and neatly. JUST DO IT!!
Give her what she wants.
You CAN live without her.
Maybe NEXT time, you will TALK ABOUT IT A LITTLE LONGER, perhaps? (grin)
2006-10-16 04:55:10 · answer #5 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she doesn't want things worked out, she just wants out. It hard to save something you don't have.
Let it go and move on. Next time, be sure of the living arrangements.
Sorry I couldn't tell you what you wanted to hear. But maybe the right one hasn't come along yet.
Good luck.
2006-10-16 05:03:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
in case you reside, it quite is going to be a believe much less, loveless marriage. bypass away and see your son another weekend if she follows threw with that. Divorce and bypass to court docket, enable your criminal professional accuse her in front of her of each little thing and something so it quite is on the checklist, and be optimistic to deliver those records to her kin... in any different case, you would be coaching your son that a guy could desire to stay and post with a spouse's BS and cheating. As he grows, you will tell him what spouse did and teach him the information. whilst he turns 13, you are able to ask for custody reversal. do not tell the spouse one iota of this concept. whilst the youngster is nearly 13, tell the youngster you opt for him to stay finished time with you and not mom, because of the fact he would be greater clam and robust, and he will have greater exciting, and he will learn many stuff from dad mom can not prepare him, or maybe if if she remarries, he needs his genuine dad to improve him. tell the son he could desire to keep all of it quiet and not tell mom...he will meet with you criminal professional and tell the criminal professional he would not like mom, and why and he needs the soundness of a existence along with his genuine dad. They prepare a action for custody reversal. the youngster would be yours. THEN, you will on the instant seek for mom's paycheck for help, pluys mom' to pay for the youngster's scientific etc, which you will improve the youngster, and he or she can turn! Too undesirable. What is going around, comes around. Have endurance. do away with the chearting spouse who could have AIDS< VD or herpes...of direction, in case you are able to teach she is NOW negligent in direction of the youngster and engdangers the youngster, choose for finished custody top now.
2016-11-23 14:35:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can get an annullment---but you'll have to get to a lawyer first.
2006-10-16 04:48:24 · answer #8 · answered by papyrusbtl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her sorry *** and get an annulment.
2006-10-16 04:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by james d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋