What would you do?
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 31/2 years and right now we are going through some problems. He really dont know how to be a good boyfriend, but he tries. I expect him to spend more time with me and take me out and romance me a little bit. He gets angry because its not in his person. He says to me "Why cant you just accept me the way I am?" He says this is all he has to offer. I love him so much and I know there are other fish in the sea but I cant seem to let him go. I see something else in him. He has never cheated (Thank God) but for some reason I keep complaining and arguing with him because he isnt the way I want him to be. Could I be expecting too much from him? I know relationships are not like the movies, you have to work and fight for it. What should I do? He is my everything. He says he's tired of arguing and hearing the same stuff all the time. He says I should be worrying about bigger things. Should I move on and throw all this away? or calm
2006-10-16 04:35:15 · 6 answers · asked by Jessi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you need to calm down about this whole situation. Your man is trying his best. You also should be thanking god you've found such a good man thas has been faithful through all of this. Why would breaking up with him even go thru your mind? You are expecting to much of him, some guys just dont have the romantic click like some other men do. But that's okay let him do what makes him feel right. So what if you dont get flowers and chocolates all the time, it's okay , your not with him because of that your with him because you love him and right now that's al you need.
2006-10-16 04:39:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you are doing through dating years goes on in marriage..do you want no romance in marriage also?..is his being faithful enough to carry your through a marriage of avoidance and no time with you..think long and hard..i would suggest praying and telling him u really require more time more romance or you are going to have to start going out on some dates..afterall 3 1/2 years is long..but long enough that he should be doing what you want in my opinion..you have the sugar he wants..he needs to start being sweeter if he wants the whole candy jar...good luck...
2006-10-16 11:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you decide to change him you have already decided by yourself that you're right and he's wrong.
You might be the one who's wrong in trying to replace what he wants with what you want.
Be sure your right before you try to rebuild him. You might not be happy with the results of your handy-work.
2006-10-16 11:59:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on and throw this all away because "the one" is all you want him to be so u can find a dude in who u like everything
2006-10-16 11:39:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously recommend you lighten up in your attitude and start to tune into his requirements, O to completion, A some outdoor stuff and start to do it whenever and wherever he wants..or someone else will....
2006-10-16 11:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Why cant you just accept me the way I am?" he's right and he will do the same for you
2006-10-16 12:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by NAUDIA B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋