bf and his x went out decades ago. now, they live together with her sis/bro/one guy. i dont like his x n she doesnt like me. im always over his house on weekends cus he invites me. i know she doesnt like me around there. reason she doesnt like me is she believes i have something against her..(her past with her n my bf) she has a bf. my big worries are she depends on him for stuff ( do this n do that) n my bf helps her out. theyre being there for each other then and now. they see each other as sis/bro? i dont know about this. we argue about her a lot. bf even broke it up once but we got back toghether. he wants me to calm, trust him. how can i ..if i feel as if im 2nd best and shes always first...i feel this way cus theyre always there for each other.
we really love/care for each other but my bf says im too jealous and have insecurites problems. even his friend n his ex agrees. is there something wrong w/ me or are they all being biased about this situation? i need others input on it
2006-10-16 04:25:59 · 7 answers · asked by julie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
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my bf and i been together for 1 yr and 2 month now.
2006-10-16 04:27:49 · update #1
i talk to him about this many many times..even ask to move in w/ me although he feels its too soon or iono. i think he feels comfy there regardless its because of her or not. i dont know what to do... we broke up once already...maybe i should just leave this relationship.....
bf tells me if he wanted to b w/ her he would or had already done so..but hes w/ me...why do i still feel as if im not treated as im his gf? ( we go out on dates... he shows he cares/loves me) (top of my head i feel if hes treating his ex same as me)...what should i do???
2006-10-16 04:41:59 · update #2
he also said hes stressed out and tired of all this crap...cus i get jealous too easily or what not....iono where the problem is? is it me or is it him or her?
so confused-
2006-10-16 04:43:58 · update #3
I think you should talk to him tell him how you feel. I also think that you should trust him a little more. You don't really seem jelouse your just feeling left out and feeling that your boyfriend is paying more attention to another girl. Theres nothing wrong with being insucure about that I would to. Just talk to him and tell him how you feel. Tell him you don't like him catering to her every need and you aren't comfortable with her depending on him so much and him just going with it.Good Luck!
2006-10-16 04:35:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point right now, your bf is having the time of his life. He OPENLY has two women. You need to stop letting him walk all over you and demand respect and if he doesn't leave and live someplace else within 2 weeks (or whatever time limit you feel is fair) that you are breaking up with him. In the meantime, my God, stop going over there because that is just humilating.
2006-10-16 04:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your boyfriend doesnt "love n care 4 u" if he lives in the same house as his ex. Thats called a rebound if u guys breakup. think about all of the old familiar feelings that must come up all of the time, i mean seriosly time to kick his *** to the curb
2006-10-16 04:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 12:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by equils 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tolerate that. You have every reason to be suspicious. It's a shady situation. Listen to your gut. If you really feel that this situation can work for your relationship, stay around and see for yourself. I would give my man an ultimatum though and I'd stick to it, even if it meant losing the relationship. If she's more important to him that your relationship is, he's not the right one for you.
2006-10-16 04:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG why is he living with her again? He doesn't have to live with her and if she is hatin on you then he should talk to her about it. He should stand up for you not her if he loves only you. If he can't do that for you then there is something else going on that you don't even want to know about.
2006-10-16 04:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by Amber C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they went out decades ago and they haven't even tried to rekindle what they once had...drop it. Leave it all be. He's been with you for a while now. If she was such a threat...she would have taken your man when you first got him.
2006-10-16 04:30:54 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋