I have fallen out of love w/my husband (married nearly 8-years)
I haven't cheated yet ... but been looking for other guys. I guess my question is does anyone have any ideas on bringing my love back? And is it possible to bring love back.?
Serious answers only please! Thank you to all who respond!
2006-10-16 04:13:32 · 11 answers · asked by Daisie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I haven't found the answer. You can't force a feeling or an emotion, it just has to be there. It's how you honestly feel. Like I've said before, people change. When a couple let's life's events and circumstances come between them, they drift apart. Priorities change, and before you know it, you're not number one in each other's lives anymore. I don't think you can be happy once that happens. And once someone changes, or you change, can you go back? I'm in the same situation, just taking things as they come. A good friend of mine once told me everything happens for a reason. I hope you find happiness again.
2006-10-16 18:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken to your husband about this? Why do you feel you've fallen out of love with him? Are you lacking the excitement you first felt? If you're looking at other guys, what are you looking for...a relationship with someone else or sex? Once you've isolated the issue(s) then you can work on it. You need to talk with your husband because you may be able to rekindle your love for eachother and doesn't 8 years deserve at least a try? Good luck with everything, I hope things work out for you both.
2006-10-16 11:21:50 · answer #2 · answered by coolguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is not easy and there may be times when you dont feel like you are connecting with your spouse as you would like to. I would suggest taking a vacation with just the two of you. My wife and I were at the same place you are at one point and we starting having date night once a week. We also set aside 30 minutes everyday for the two of us to talk about what was going on, no TV, kids interupting etc, just the two of us talking. Marriage is not always easy and sometimes you have to remember that you married him "for better or worse", not "for better or I will have an affair".You need to stop with the looking at other men, it is only going to get you in trouble. If you feel like you are at a point that your husband just isnt doing it for you and you have to go to another man, then divorce him first, dont take the coward way and try to find someone else first then leave him.
2006-10-16 11:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not a feeling, it is a choice - and it's a choice you've already made. You are committed to your husband, and need to do whatever you can to salvage that relationship.
It sounds like you really just want to get your hubby's attention - cheating on him may accomplish that, but it will do more damage than good. So many people take the easy way out and cheat on their spouses instead of talking to them - don't be a chicken. Now's the time to talk to him and see what he's feeling.
2006-10-16 11:24:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one conversation you should be having with him ...maybe he feels the same maybe he wants to do things better one thing i will say is take yr eyes off the other guys and dont even go there it causes devestation. Re sow the lawn in your own garden if you can before you do someone elses. The 2 of you need to sit down an talk and find what you once had and decide if its worth finding again or to go seperate ways. I have been throught this but unfortunately it was too late and lets just say the devestation hit for me and my children
2006-10-16 11:21:22 · answer #5 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are looking for another guys , is because you feel bored of your husband try to be more honest with him before you cheat think about it and all the consequences this will bring to your life.
2006-10-16 11:44:07 · answer #6 · answered by haki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first 3 answers and I am LOVING the fact that the responses are from MEN. Kudos guys. I will just add...cheating shouldnt be an option. MAKE IT WORK or DIVORCE
2006-10-16 11:21:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the feeling! My husband stopped being intimate with me. He never cuddle,or kiss. We have kids, house. I still love him, but will consider having something meaningless on the side. My life lacks of exitement, intimasy, romance. I tried to talk, but no result. What can I do??? Suffer? Why shoul I?
2006-10-16 11:41:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ioulia C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! That's a tough one. I would say talk to him about it. You guys need to rekindle what you once had. If you really want it to work you will do whatever it takes! If you can't make that kind of commitment move on and find something new. Don't string him along.
2006-10-16 11:17:55 · answer #9 · answered by jaynowa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him to see a counselor with you. You are at the point in life you need to ask yourself a question
is marriage just a word with out any meaning to you or does it really hold something in your heart.
falling in love and out of love is a joke. you need to rediscover the man you are living with why you care so much about him. change with him and grow with him. go ask for help with him.
good luck
2006-10-16 11:19:45 · answer #10 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋