Okay I'm in high shool, and I have some friends that I've know for the 4 years of high school, and I just made alot of new friends this year, and they are totally different. Like my old friends some how put me down, and just compete with my. For example this one time I took a quiz and got a 56 on it, and my friend got like a 90, the teacher said he was gonna let me and who ever failed retake it, tell me why my "friend" started saying that it wasent fair, and so I ended up keeping my 56. The old friends just act like I dont know what. And my new friends seem so nice and cool, that I preffer hanging out with them, and my old friends feel left out and just not loved. I love them, but they get annoying at times, and people tell me that those are not true frinds, they are just good classmates, I'm not mean so I just cant ditch them like they do me. I need advice on how to deal with them.
2006-10-16 04:09:05 · 5 answers · asked by angelica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Your old friends do not sound like true friends to me. Merely acquaintances. why are you hanging around with them? they seem to want to shred your self-confidence. they already got you not to want to let go.
Let go.
your new friends, on the other hand, sound like what friends should be. People you like to hang around with, and you enjoy their company.
Your old friends feel left out. Tough. It's not YOUR problem. It's theirs.
Why should you worry about them? They want you to be with them, so they can continue on holding you back? You say you love them... really...??? Look at what you wrote. "I just can't ditch them like they do me". So they've already ditched you... Just because you are happier they want you back... forget them.
Just move on. I assure you, you'll feel a lot better for it.
Life is about knowing when to hang on and when to let go.
In this case, it's a matter of letting go.
2006-10-16 04:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Balaboo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The advice I've given my kids has been, 'Find friends that make you feel good about yourself'. Of course, you return it to your friends. Good friends support each other in good & bad times. They don't use you to dump on or make fun of. The old friends don't sound like friends at all. They have a lot to learn. Real friendships are give & take, and unconditional.
2006-10-16 04:23:07 · answer #2 · answered by l_quicksilver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U should go to the heart of the problem, u should go to each of ur freinds that are treating u badly ,putting u down, etc. And ask them why they are treating u this way. Only then u will know the Truth about why they are doing this to you. Thats what i would do.
2006-10-16 04:34:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you fail to study and you hang with loser who has what for a future? and you want to know who is your friends?
Friend.
Someone who help you to reach you to your goal in life and not drag you down in life.
2006-10-16 04:16:04 · answer #4 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever try talking with them about how they make you feel unhappy? Talking may be painful, but you should try it...
2006-10-16 04:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by rocker22_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋