2006-10-16 04:07:37 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You dont wait for him to do it....YOU do it!
2006-10-16 04:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Give him hints or talk openly, depends on your personality. Just be careful and PAY attention to his reaction. Even to his body language. If he steps back on either words or gestures (or both) then you will have to wait between waiting until he is ready or putting pressure on him under great risk of causing a break up.... Anyway think about why you want him to pop the question? What do you think you would have at a marriage than you dont have now?
2006-10-16 04:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by Graça 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't force a man to pop the question. Men will pop the question when they're ready for that kind of commitment. Your boyfriend loves you, but he's just not ready to give up his freedom of being a man. Being a married man is not easy for most men. Men have to give up their friends, money, etc..., which is why men propose when they're ready. Women want men to propose because they're ready to have kids, they want the ring, etc... It's easier for the women when it comes to marriage, besides taking care of the children while the husband works. He'll propose when he's ready, just don't force him or else he never will.
2006-10-16 04:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by sportsgirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the question you want him to pop. Lets say its marriage. Give him lots and lots of hints. If that doesnt work, start a conversation about marriage in general. Then start trying on weeding dresses and looking at weeding rings. If he still hasnt got the message, knock him over the head with a big baseball bat and find another guy
2006-10-16 04:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by sunline 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't!!!! 3 years, 3 months, 2 days, 18 years....Guys don't really have a time frame for this stuff unless its something like "the baby's coming in 5 months..."
Have you even discussed marriage? word to the wise, if you cannot speak about something regarding the relationship with your mate...its not a good relationship, so if you can't discuss marriage, you ARE NOT ready for marriage.
2006-10-16 04:38:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he won't ask until he's ready.
Have you discussed your future together?
If this is something you've never discussed, he won't ask if he thinks you are both on the same page.
Drop some hints that you are ready to commit. Next time you are together, watch "The Bachelor" with Chris O'Donnell & Rene Zellweiger. Flip through girl magazines when he's around - they ALWAYS have engagement ring ads - make a comment to him how beautiful you think one is.
You could also just flat out ask him where he sees your relationship going.
Or...you could propose to him!
Good Luck!
2006-10-16 04:15:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
everyone is different..just because you feel ready does not mean that he does. I think 5 yrs is better, then you really know the person. Nothing is going to change after you get married, unless you are not living together.
Just enjoy the time you are together, and let him bring it up when he feels like it.
2006-10-16 04:14:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to do anything. When he's ready he'll ask you. Don't rush him or bring it up to him because you just might mess yourself up. Don't push a guy into marriage because it never works out down the road. When he's ready he'll pop the question.
2006-10-16 04:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably should have talked about the topic of marriage before now...in my opinion, whats the point of dating someone long-term if you arent going to marry them? Does he say he DEFINETELY wants to marry you, just not yet, does he say he "just inst sure yet", or has it even come up? If he doesnt say for sure that he WANTS to marry you, just not yet, after 3 years, you need to re-evaluate where this is going. Have a chat withhim. Tell him you dont mean to pressure him or anything...but you've been together for a long time. Tell him you just want to know his intentions...does he plan to marry you SOMEDAY? If he says yes for sure, just be patient. If he says "I just dont know yet", you have some things to think about. If he doesnt know by now, he wont ever know. He should be so lucky to get to marry you! You are a great catch, who is he to say he's not sure! Find someone that appreciates what he has.
2006-10-16 04:18:49 · answer #9 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't pressure him to pop the question. Just bring up marriage during a conversation and see where it leads you
2006-10-16 04:11:13 · answer #10 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you pop the question if thats what you are wanting. you cant' make someone do what you want them to do just cause its what you want. thats not what relationships are based on.....especially with something as big as getting married. either way......if you pop the question then you will know if he wants to ever get married or not. if not then you have a choice then to stay in a relationship were you know will not lead to marriage...or he will say yes and you will take it from there. but be careful you may end up pushing him away and break up with you if you open this can of worms. if you want it to come from his heart....then wait it out. you can't make someone pop the question....cause then it won't be because its what he wants to do....its what you want him to do....and why would you want someone to do this only cause its what you want. don't you want to be with someone who wants to be with you?
2006-10-16 04:13:32 · answer #11 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋