I was browsing through my BF mobile today (with him by my side) & found 2 topless pics of girls which he downloaded from the internet. He said it was just for fun and deleted them after I told him to do so but don't seemed to understand why I'm upset about it. We've been together for almost 7 years and I knew that he watches porn and I'm okay with it but why does he have to download them into the phone? (Apparently he doesn't see why he can't and asked "What's wrong?") Does anyone else have the same problem? Any advice?
2006-10-16 04:05:39 · 38 answers · asked by poorlilrichgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
thats just how males are
2006-10-16 04:06:55 · answer #1 · answered by Henry_Tee 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
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2016-07-16 23:12:45 · answer #2 · answered by Amanda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Finally, it seems like you are a lady who is willing to compromise and can understand the benefits of porn in a relationship. Unfortunately, you have a valid problem from it. All I can tell you to do is talk to him and don't concentrate on what is going on with him this time since it seems you have already tried that route. Instead tell him how this is making you feel without judging him or accusing him of anything. He is probably oblivious to your feelings and concerns. He needs to realize how great it is to have a wife who would watch, shop for and enjoy porn with him. If only I were so lucky. Since he is doing this while you are away, he is probably masturbating to it and not having the proper energy or hormone level stored up in him to have the amount of interest that you desire. The only other thing I can think of is that he may be watching some other type of porn that he doesn't want you to know about for fear it would turn you off. Give those things a shot, and good luck with it.
2016-05-22 06:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is really simple.
Think about this ...........what is better a move on DVD that you have rented from the store or whatever movie happens to be on TV ?
Most of the time the DVD hits the spot better because you can watch it when you want as opposed to when the TV company wants you to.
Once you have watched the DVD you take it back to the store and get on with your life. But with cable you have to keep paying every month.
Also the movie on TV is probably a re-run whilst the DVD is a new release.
The good news ? I think most porn watching is just boredom.....it is a bit like free drugs. if his time was filled with more meaningful pursuits there wouldn't be so much porn.
2006-10-16 04:22:05 · answer #4 · answered by yepwellmaybe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right, porn devalues women and changes the way men view and relate to women. As to why he can't see and asked "what's wrong?" You say that you are okay with him watching porn..why should he think you wouldn't be okay with him downloading it to his phone...or viewing it online or buying magazines.
If you want a a different response from him you need to be able to explain why it upsets, have clear beliefs that he can comprehend. If you can do that you will soon know which is more valuable to him...you or the porn.
2006-10-16 04:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by good_d_a_v_i_d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it. It is no reflection on you honestly. He loves you and your body and it is just something that all men do. If it makes you feel better, go download a couple of naked pictures of male strippers onto your phone and see how he reacts. Maybe then he will see it from your point of view. Maybe wathing and enjoying porn together may help you realise that it's harmless fun, it is just fantasy and you do not need to be offended by something that isn't even real. Take care : )
2006-10-16 04:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what is the difference between watching porn on tv or his pc but not on the cell phone... cannot understand what's the big deal. Its just a pic that most probably he never looks at. I know myself because I downlaod and edit images all the time on my mobile phone, but I rarely see them.
2006-10-16 04:25:40 · answer #7 · answered by trushka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been engrained in mens minds that it's acceptable to see naked women.. whether it be posters in the house/garage.. images on the computer/tv or even pics on the cell phone.
(and of course strip-clubs)
I used to have a problem with it and then I realized it was because I wasn't confident in myself.. I used to get into many a fights with previous bf's over it.
When I finally got over it and realized that women (and men) are beautiful.. and that is why they are being looked at... It didn't bother me anymore.
I think for me, if it became an obsessive issue then I'd have a problem with it.. But it's not for me. I'm confident in my skin.
My bf does have a couple pics of pretty naked girls that he saved on his computer.. and his santuary of naked posters in his garage.. I even found some cell phone wallpapers of pretty girls and sent them to his phone.. that's about it around here..
My advice is to either make a stink about it with your man or to just let it go.. Whatever's going to make you happy.
2006-10-16 04:13:42 · answer #8 · answered by SassySista 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn is great, especially if you two are trying to abstain from sex with others. Why shouldn't he download pics to his phone? You can't just get real people to take off their clothes whenever you need them to.
2006-10-16 04:11:15 · answer #9 · answered by C. V. C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Porn and men are natural...and with women too. Men are not necessarly looking at the woman themselves but at the "whole" picture...what I mean is that they are looking at the arousal look of the picuter...I bet if you bought the same outfit (or a teddy) and posed the same way, then your BF would have you on his phone. But I look at it this way, and you may not that is your choice, but wouldn't you rather have him looking at pictures than a the real thing in life and possibly be tempted? Also, maybe he might not want you in a teddy on his phone for fear that one of his friends would see you and normally men don't like other men looking at their ladies....just a question...ask him what he would like.
2006-10-16 04:10:26 · answer #10 · answered by cdb774 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does he have any naked pics of you? I'm not being disrespectful, maybe instead of demanding he delete his porn you trade him for shots of you. This would increase trust within your relationship. Maybe watch a little porn with him. Who knows, you might like it.
2006-10-16 04:11:18 · answer #11 · answered by SGT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋