Who asked to be told the sex of their baby?

Question

I didn't. I made sure the sonographer (is that the right word??) knew not to give anything away. A few folk I knew asked to find out and I just feel it takes away the element of nine month's anticipation,wondering and excitement.

Just to confirm-I am not currently pregnant and have come to the end of baby making. It was just a general wonder.Obviously having the baby in my arms was the ultimate but to me, not knowing just added to it all.
My husband and I had a girl and boy name all lined for all 3 so were never in any doubt from that angle.
As for being prepared-in my own personal opinion - it is possible to decorate a nursery in bright neutral colours that would suit either sex and be vamped up with additional decorations/curtains to suit the sex.And apart from some white baby suits that I was sure any newborn baby could wear,I didn't feel the need to buy clothes for a particular sex before the baby was born. Enough clothes came from family and friends to last my 1st child almost through to his first birthday anyway.There was something nice too in looking for clothes carrying him around with me.I enjoyed buying just for him as he was right then rather just for a baby boy in general before hand.

Answer 1

I chose not to find out. My first baby is due in a couple of days (getting pretty nervous now!) and I just thought that there are so very few genuine surprises left in life it would be a shame to spoil this one. I'm really glad I made this decision, as being told whether it's a boy or girl is one of the things i'm looking forward to most.

Wish me luck !

Answer 2

It's still a surprise when the u/s tech tells you, only you've been waiting about 20 weeks instead of 40.

I found out, because it was my first baby and I had nothing, and I didn't want to have a whole bunch of white, yellow, and green things. I like baby girls in dresses, and baby boys in blue.

He was a boy, and if my next one is a girl, I will not find out the sex of any other children I might have, because I will already have boy/girl specific things.

But on the other hand, if I knew going into it that this will be my only pregnancy, I wouldn't have found out, because the baby being born and the dr saying 'It's a ...' would never happen again.

Answer 3

I just found out Friday I am having a girl. I will be having a baby shower and want people to know what to buy. I also want to have the nursery ready when she gets here. I didn't want to dress my boy in yellow and green all the time! But whatever floats your boat. I had to know. But some people like the surprise.

I figured it was a girl. Everytime I had a dream about [it] it was a girl. I always pictured it as a girl. We wanted a boy, but are ok with a girl. I just had that gut feeling.

Answer 4

Well I hope you didn't look at the pictures of the baby then, I know you didn't because that would also take the excitement of seeing the baby for the first time when he or she is born. It is too hard to prepare for a child and you don't know the sex. Further more the excitement is not knowing whether it is a boy or girl it's the excitement of holding them and seeing how they resemble. you will change your mind.

Answer 5

i didn't find out the sex of my 2 children until the day they were born. but i was sure i was having a girl with my first child and i was right but my second i didn't have a clue. the hospital where i had my scans had a policy of not telling you the sex, but since then they have changed this policy and i will be able to ask for the Sonographer to tell me with my 3rd child (due may 7th 2007) and i still don't know if i will or not i suppose i will have to see how i feel on the day of the scan.

Answer 6

I asked, but I have to say, I knew anyway. As soon as I found out that I was pregnant, I was always addressing my baby as a girl, and we had already chosen her name, so I used it while she was in the womb- it never occured to me that I might have been carrying a boy until just before my scan, and I was suddenly thinking 'What if I was wrong?' but that lasted about a day- at my scan, the sonographer told me that he was 90% certain I was carrying a girl, then it was confirmed at my 36 week scan.

Answer 7

I didn't want to know for any of mine but the hospital let it slip with number 6 and 7, I asked with number 8 and I wish I hadn't....they tell you so much now, it's got lots of hair, how much it weighs etc. etc. There doesn't seem to be any surprises left. We should all be thankful that we've had the opportunity to get pregnant and give birth....at the end of the day does it matter what sex it is, as long as everything is where it should be and it is healthy?

Answer 8

I don't think I would want to know, I mean, you know it is going to be a baby, so boy or girl is the only suprise left - even if it isn't a big range of possibilities. It cant be that hard to choose two different names (or lists of names) and paint the nursery in yellows or greens. Still, let's see how I feel once I'm actually there!!

Answer 9

well, funny story about finding out the sex of a child. i was supposed to be a boy, everything that the dr's told my mother pointed to me being a boy. i'm not. my husband is very glad for that..me too. we have a beautiful daughter, and it didn't bother me one way or the other if i knew; however i did keep telling (through out the entire pregnancy) him that we were going to have a little red headed girl. my husband wanted to know, so we found out; it actually helped because we had gone through 3 baby books from A to Z on girl's names because there were none that he liked. finding out the sex actually forced him to find a name that he liked. when our daughter was born she had bright red hair, and still has it to this day. he should have just listened to me, and found a girl's name sooner than later.

Answer 10

I asked about the sex of my last baby when I was pregnant because the doctor said if I had any more children it would have killed me so I am glad I found out I had a girl and I also have a boy so I had to know good luck