I just ask the question about my husband and I of 12 years. You can read the paragraph caption " What should I do". Here is the problem. Before we seperated I ask many times about counseling.Absolutely NOT. He will not go. He doesn't feel that we need to tell others about our problems. I know idiot!!!! Anyways, I have over the past year had talks with him and he said that his feeeling haven't changed and the only reason for not filing that he doesn't want to lose my frienship. I have no doubt that he loves and cares for me as a close friend but he also knows that if we divorce that I can't be friends with him any longer. I would always feel their is hope and read something into things he says or does. I understand this might seem ridiculous to some but it is so hard to let some one go that you really love. Thanks for all the replies
2006-10-16 03:54:05 · 4 answers · asked by grits_fla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the only thing really keeping him around is being "friend"ly in the middle of the night. As far as counseling goes, HE may not want to tell other people about the problems, but you can make it clear you need the help and YOU will be telling other people about your problems--he may as well join in and help balance the perspective.
Your situation is not rediculous and it is hard. I wish you the best, but can't offer a great deal of hope, yet there is some. YOU go see the counselor, YOU need the support of the level head of an outside observer.
2006-10-16 04:02:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should examine together what the probems you guys are having. And try to pin point why it's happening. You know a bit of time away from each other won't hurt. Don't be scared to be alone for a while, i've just come out of a relationship and i know its really scary but you know what? It'snot the end of your life!
2006-10-16 11:03:24 · answer #2 · answered by misssie . 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FILE FOR DIVORCE AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE. YOU HAVE BEEN WAITING ALMOST A YEAR, DOESN'T THAT SEEM LIKE ENOUGH TIME TO WASTE? HE OBVIOUSLY DON'T WANT TO DO WHAT IT TAKES TO MAKE A MARRIAGE WORK. JUST HANGING AROUND HOPING HE MIGHT CHANGE HIS MIND SEEMS RIDICULOUS TO ME.
GET SOME SELF ESTEEM AND SEE WHERE THAT WILL TAKE YOU.
2006-10-16 11:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it works for the two of you. Who cares what any one else thinks.
If it is not working for you then you should file.
2006-10-16 11:02:22 · answer #4 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋